I know this should be the last of my worries right now, but I can't help but keep thinking about what he was doing with her!! It was something I have been begging him to try with me for years! What should I do?!
2006-08-30 02:57:46 · 32 answers · asked by KC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have to agree with you; it should be the least of your worries and I am sorry that you have been betrayed by two people who should care for you most in the world. No one deserves this to happen to them and it is the morals and character flaws of you husband and best friend that are the root of the problem, not you.
Only way to know for sure would be to ask him but my guess would be anger or revenge and some perceived wrong by him somewhere in his life (not necessarily because of anything you did or didn't do) combined with low self-esteem issues.
Unfortuantely, people tend to lash out at the person they feel is going to still love them unconditionally. He likely wanted to be caught and be caught doing something you have begged him to do in order to feel powerful as he knows it has the ability to hurt you.
If you both really want to try to save your marriage, I would suggest a mutual agreement of eliminating the "best friend" completely from your lives and get marriage counseling to find out what the root of his behavior is and help you sort out if you really do want to stay in this relationship.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 03:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say years, it indicates you have been married for quite a while. Do you want to end the marriage? Can you let the affair go? What about your friend? All of these are hard questions that I know you are having to face. But it seems that you really want what ever sex act it was to happen with you. Get your husband to do to you what ever it was you saw him doing to her that turns you on so much. If he won't, then find someone who will.
2006-08-30 03:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is to bad. Seeing as you didn't shoot him right on the spot, or kick her *** like a Jerry Springer episode, You should probably talk with both of them and see if they would let you join in. You just might find what you were looking for. But anycase Honey, follow your heart.
2006-08-30 03:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by downsouthcpl2932 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u should slap your friend for being such bad relationship with your husband.
Then u really ask your husband that why he did so and ask him am I not satisfying u in sex.
I think that u might not been caressing him physically and emotionally. ask him what type of behaviour, style or action does he wants whie doing sex.
Even ask your friend that how she attracted your husband; then u also follow the same style.
2006-08-30 03:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by PH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce comes to mind hun, if he's sleeping with you're so called best friend then who else is sleeping with, you need a new husband and best friend hun, good luck and i hope things work out for you.
2006-08-30 03:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by david r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump his stupid *** and you so called best friend because neither one of them are someone you want to be around. and as for what he was doing with her.. did you ever bother to tell him what you wanted sex wise.. maybe you embarrassed him when you begged for him to do something to you like he was doing to her..maybe he didn't think it was proper or didn't know how to do it. maybe she was showing him how so he could do it to you..myself i would get out of the relationship who wants someone that is going to cheat on you anyway.. and who wants a best friend that would do something like that with your husband anyway..
get your self a new partner that will do the things you want to do
good luck.
2006-08-30 03:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? What should you do? Divorce the bastard, get every freaking dime from him and move on. If whatever he was doing to her he wouldn't do with you, it's pretty damn clear don't you think. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-30 03:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by IZZY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, lose the "best friend" and move on! You can meet someone new who will be excited to try new things with you.
2006-08-30 03:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. not your best friend 2. find a man who will do whatever it was and 3. get counseling
2006-08-30 03:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump in bed with them if that is what you wanted for years.
2006-08-30 03:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋