One day her mind's all made up--she is getting it. then the next day it's" nope I don't want it".
2006-08-30 02:49:10 · 24 answers · asked by birdwings_65 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Maybe you can get her to consider putting the baby up for adoption. I have a sister-in-law that has adopted 3 babies and given them a good life they would have never had if the mother had kept them or had an abortion.
2006-08-30 02:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definalty experiencing the pregnancy temperment where you want one thing one day and something completely different the next minute. I'd talk with her on why she might consider an abortion and perhaps give some good alternatives to it, like adoption. Making the decision to have an abortion and going through with it will have devistating effects on her emotional health for years to come. Many women fall into depression for years perhaps even the whole rest of her life. Even if she does go through an abortion, still be supportive. She'll need it more than ever after a traumatizing event like that. Pray for her and be a supportive and positive person in her life. Best of luck.
2006-08-30 10:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U tell her abortion isn't the only option. U get her info on all her options from a reputable source like Planned Parenthood. If she gets an abortion & isn't 100% sure about it she'll regret it 4 the rest of her life. She'll probably regret it even if she is sure. She can look into adoption or just keep the baby. Personally I don't believe in abortion unless there's a medical reason 4 it. I can't help but think of all the people out ther desperately wanting kids but can't concieve while hundreds of thousands of women r out there using abortion as birth control.
2006-08-30 10:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by eji7997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not believe abortion would be right for me but recently my friend had this choice to make. I told her simple that no matter her choice or my beliefs we were friends and I would support her through a pregnancy, abortion or adoption no matter what my personal thoughts were. Being a friend means you help your friends through hard times and well as enjoying good times. Use you head and don't express your choice or opinion make sure she thinks through all her options. It is a huge decision that is why she is flip flopping. I personally could not due to the guilt of disposing of a child because I wanted a way out. There are too many childless couples and this baby did not choose to be made.
2006-08-30 10:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by M T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her decision but if she decides to go through with the abrotion be supportive because it will be veyr hard on her and she might regret it later in life. If she has a supportive boyfriend/husband then I would say have the baby. It's very hard to give up up the baby once you see her, adoption is harder then most people think because you'll always know you have a child out there.
2006-08-30 10:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kara May 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her its the biggest mistake that she will make in her life and one that will haunt her for the rest of her life. I had one 4 years ago and it almost destroyed me. I have a beautiful 15 month old and I found out that I was pregnant with her on the exact day 2 years later from when I had my abortion. I still think about it to this day, what could have been......
2006-08-30 09:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by freezynose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a TOUGH one!
Be supportive of her no matter what, but also (very gently) remind her she doesn't need to put it off of she's going to do it. Every day she waits, another part of the baby is growing.
Just be there for her. Be her friend and listen to her thoughts and concerns.
Adoption in my opinion, is the way to go. But I'm not her, and it's not my decision to make.
2006-08-30 10:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her no matter what but, remind her that she needs to make the abortion decision before it's too late. Take her to Planned Parenthood to talk to someone there.
2006-08-30 11:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs some guidance. This is a pretty big decision on her part, and she just needs you to be there for her. Not necessarily to tell her what to do, but to listen to her concerns and worries, and things like that. It's a tough decision to make especially when she can't make up her mind. Just let her share with you her feelings about it, and you just listen to her. She's probably torn up about this pretty bad.
2006-08-30 09:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then she shouldn't get it if she is that uncertain. She may regret it for the rest of her life and that can be painful. Besides, tell her not to kill an innocent baby, God never gives us more that we can handle.
We need more details too. What does the father think? How old is she? is she open to adoption?
2006-08-30 09:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋