we married at an early age, 14 and 19. he went away to viet-nam a month later, and his family sent me away. i didn't know how to find him, and i was afraid in ca all alone. he has remarried with kids, and so have i. but i still love him, and i want him back. we didn't quit our relationship someone did it for us. i want a chance with my husband am i wrong, what should i do?
2006-08-30 02:26:19 · 16 answers · asked by shaglemongirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too late now...quit dwelling on it and move on with your life. Life is too short.
2006-08-30 02:29:11 · answer #1 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u got married and didn't file for divorce when his parents sent you away, then the first marriage is legal and it annuls the second one. That means you're married to him and not the the second husband, the one you have now. But are you sure he loves you still? And that he would leave his new wife to come back to you? First of all, search for him and see how he feels about this. But I doubt he might wanna hurt his wife's feelings to be with you again, even if he loves you. He might feel responsible of his new wife's happiness.
2006-08-30 02:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by DreamGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously something is wrong with the relationship that you are in now to make you think of something that happened so long ago. You need to re-examine what is going on in your life with your current husband. That man is remarried and has moved on so should you.
2006-08-30 02:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of time has gone by and you need to ask yourself if he is even still the man you love and vice versa. And what about your current spouses? You should probably at least attempt to contact him so that you can have piece of mind, but tread carefully, because this could turn into a complicated mess.
2006-08-30 03:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how does he still feel about you. Are you happy in the relationship that you are in? And the same for him. Love is love and I would want to see him and talk thing thur. Find out where he stands and tell him what you feel. The only thing that I can say is follow you heart. Best of luck to you.
2006-08-30 02:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say sweetie that it's just been too long. You have a family now. You'll never forget him or stop loving him. I don't think anyone forgets or stops loving their first true love. But you have to move on. Let sleeping dogs lie. If you see him, wish him well, otherwise, don't mess with it. You have kids. Think of them. Think of how devestated they would be. I know it hurts, and but don't hang on to yesterday; you only hurt yourself more in the long run.
2006-08-30 03:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
visiting X loves can be very disappointment. but as you say you need closure. I would say find him and meet somewhere for lunch or diner with the spouses with you.
You might always be deeply in love with hem...but it is a fairy tale sott of love. Just becaure u love him doesn't mean you two should be together.
Enjoy the reunieon but Love your husband more than you ev er had g
good luck
2006-08-30 02:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont u think if he loved u wud have come back for u instead of gettin married to another woman and havin kids wid her... Why wud u wanna spend the rest of ur life thinking of this guy who probably doesnt even think bout u...
2006-08-30 02:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by UK GUY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the sweetest thing that I have ever heard. If you still love this man, then go for it. What is the worst that could happen. He could say no and only want to be your friend. I think that's damn good. Most divorced people can't even be friends....
2006-08-30 02:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by luv him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you both remarry and have kids? It's been 30 years. Try to contact him, but if he has a wife, you can't have him back.
2006-08-30 03:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you even get legally divorced? I can understand how you would feel that way. Maybe his family lied to him about what happened to you. Some closure in your life by contacting him would be positive for you and him.
2006-08-30 03:02:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋