Why is it that men try and guess what a woman means?

Question

They say that women don't say what they mean but I really find that men try and figure out what they think we are trying to say (& they are usually wrong). Why don't men just hear the words and answer the question instead of trying to cover their asses? Example - Have you seen my watch?
Answer from man - what watch? Well, since I only have one or does it matter which - have you seen a watch lying around? I say what I mean. why is that so hard for men to figure out?

Answer 1

Well, that's a fairly complicated question. However, being a guy I will put into my limited perspective. First off, when a guy likes a woman, they are usually more careful of what they say because they either don't want to offend her or get her mad at them, because they think they might "lose" her. (We "guy's" are competitive).

Now you add the fact that women sometimes ask ambiguous questions or questions that guys feel could become major trouble if they answer it wrong. For example, "do you think I'm fat?" So if we say "Yes", we are in trouble, but if we say "no", then you think we are just being polite (and we end up in trouble).

So when you ask "have you seen my watch?"....guys tend to respond with "what watch?" because they are trying to gauge your mood before they say "hell no! I ain't seen your d@mn watch!!" :)

Now if you want a direct answer from a guy, ask a direct question. :) If you ask...."Would you like to have sex?"...you won't get any questions from a guy like "what type of sex?"....you sprobably would get a "yes indeedy!!"

Answer 2

Here are just a few words that men ought to get to grips with....
Vocabulary of the fair sex.

FINE

This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

FIVE MINUTES

If she is getting dressed, this is half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given 5 more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

NOTHING

This is the calm before the storm. This means "something," and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with 'Nothing' usually end in "Fine"

GO AHEAD

This is a dare, not permission. Don't do it.

LOUD SIGH

This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

THAT'S OKAY

This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

THANKS

A woman is thanking you. Do not question it or faint. Just say you're welcome.

Answer 3

Sometimes the questions are loaded and men try to tread carefully. If a woman says "Does this dress look good on me?" or "Doesn't she look pretty in that bathing suit?" then the answers that men say in their heads before they open their mouths to make a sound is probably not going to be what comes out. Instead of "Well dear it is a little tight around your waist but OK" becomes "That purple is your best color." A reply to the bathing suit one isn't "She is really wonderfully over-built for a bikini top" becomes "Which one - I hadn't noticed?" Since a wrong answer is a minefield trip covering their asses is the way that they get along in a relationship.

Answer 4

.I don't know any men that are that stupid. I am not saying that there aren't any. Obviously you found one... But I think you are generalizing men as being a lot less than they are.

And there are times when a woman's questions can be really hard to answer. Especially when they ask you something like.

Does this make me look fat?
That is when the guys say. "What?" "When?" "Where?"

The poor guy is screwed.

No = Oh so I just look fat all the time !!!
Yes= ....... don't even need to say anything on that one now do I?
:o)
Jerry

Answer 5

Because so many of you ask questions with double meanings.
Like Have you seen my watch? A: Yes it very nice. Woman response..... No I had a new one on yesterday and you didn't notice etc etc.
I have been in this argument over a new top.
That's why we feel the need to cover our asses, so you don't start chewing our ears off.

Answer 6

To often men are put into a corner with questions or statements from women. For example, "We need to talk" is kinda of like being questioned by the police, you need to shut up until you find out what you're being accused of.

Answer 7

Well because they have selective thinking and hearing. They never really actually hear what you say. What a woman says and how a man processes it, are two different things. Maybe this is why they are so attracted to each other besides chemistry.

Answer 8

Nature of the beast. It's pretty much like the same way that women think that they can ultimately "change" a bad boy. Just isn't going to happen.

Answer 9

men don't have to guesss what a woman means: a woman means trouble ;-)

Answer 10

Because men have always had that impossible dream to do the the impossible...................