i am due feb. 14th
without going into too much detail...
my ex husband may or may not be going to jail for his actions in the past ..if he does not i am worried he might want to take our baby from me..
what should i do? stop worrying until the time comes for the baby to be born?
any suggestions / comments would be appriciated thanks
2006-08-30 02:21:03 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i should of included this also ( sorry guys )
we are no longer married .. we got an annulment that is a long story and something i do not want to even talk to about in yahoo answers :P as far as divideing up belongings and etc that has not happened yet .. i was just wondering if my baby would have to be considered also
i really just wanted to get people opinion
thanks
2006-08-30 03:43:57 · update #1
First, I would like to say congratulations, having a baby is one of the best things anyone can do. Second, not to judge you, but it sounds like you have done the right thing, by getting this guy out of your life the best you can. I applaud you for that as well.
To get to the answer you need; any judge in his/her right mind should not take a child away from its mother, when the father is as irresponsible as this guys sounds. He has a criminal record, the judge will more than likely let you keep the baby. The father may have visitation, but you can ask for supervised visitation. How involved does the dad want to be? If not much, get him to sign his rights to the baby away and the child is yours. However the catch with that, is generally child support will stop as well. State laws vary quite a bit, so I would say consult a good lawyer and go from there.
Good luck, and again congratulations.
2006-08-30 02:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the father he can try 2 obtain custody but w/ a record it's highly unlikely he'd be successful. U can't take any steps towards custody until the baby is born. Once u deliver someone @ the hospital can counsel u on the steps to take. I would not having him at the hospital or u calling him when u deliver. Until there r legal documents stating u have sole custody he will have just as much right 2 the baby as u do. I went through a similar situaton w/ my ex-husband & son.
2006-08-30 03:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by eji7997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex may be going to jail - that is significant, you may be able to use it to show he is unfit. Go to a lawyer, there are a great many places that can help you find the resources to pay for one if you are unable.
Also - take a good look at your own life, see what you can do to prove your past isn't your present or your future.
Go to school - anything to show you are improving your life - judges like that.
Finally, don't get overly excited, you are only in the early stages and your hormomes are crazy right now (geeze I remember being crazy during the first trimester)
I hope all things go well.
2006-08-30 02:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Pink, please take my advice for what it is worth, but I think you need a much better plan than just waiting to see what happens. Some of the problems you have had in your life have happened because you weren't really taking control of your own life but just letting things happen. When your baby comes, he or she is going to need you to be able to make good choices and be moving away from trouble and into peace and security. You need that too! So think about where the most reliable source of support for you is (church, school, counselors, etc) and work with someone you know you can trust to make a plan. Your life is complicated and you need help. Don't wait any longer. Go get help today and start planning for a happy and safe future.
2006-08-30 02:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex husband is a real winner...The fact that he has done something that may cause his incarceration will be enough for the judge to leave the baby with you. Judges rarely take children from their mothers anyway and certainly not in this case. Your ex husband sounds pretty scared and is trying to control you in this way it seems. Talk to an attorney. If you can't afford it, call legal aid. Don't let that jerk put his issues off on you.
2006-08-30 02:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really, really need to consult a lawyer. I'm surprised that custody of your unborn child wasn't addressed in the divorce proceedings. Many lawyers offer a free initial consultation, after which you can discuss fees etc. If you're low income, you should qualify for legal aid. Failing that, the court houses (here in Canada anyway - call one in the country that you live in) always have a "duty counsel" available - you can walk in in or make an appointment to discuss your circumstances with them for free. They'll have a list of lawyers who take legal aid, as well.
Many universities that teach law also have free legal clinics, and sometimes ever free representation.
I hope all goes well for you - do try not to stress too much.
2006-08-30 02:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by ceekryt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer now about custody issues. If there is a chance he is going to jail, the likelihood of him getting custody is probably slim. Do so now, before the baby is born, and make certain to let the lawyer know everything about your ex, and why he is in trouble with the law. You can get a restraining order against him if you need to.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 02:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Leah 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stress yourself out about this, not only is it not good for the baby, it's very unlikely that he will have any chance of taking that child away from you. The only way he might have a slight chance is if your criminal record is as bad as his or worse. The only thing that you should worry about now is you and the baby. Seek a lawyers advice if it's gets to that point. Good luck and Congrats on your new baby!
2006-08-30 02:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by babygirlzluvin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it would be very difficult for him to take your child from you, especially if he has been involved in any criminal activities. If you are a good mother, have a clean home, clean record and don't do drugs, etc, I don't believe you have anything to worry about. I would suggest, however, that you see an attorney about custody. Get custody established, so he canot legally take your child.
Good luck, and congrats on the little one!
P.S. Don't spend too much time stressing, you need to be healthy and happy in order to have a healthy and happy baby. :)
2006-08-30 02:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being that he has been arrested for whatever, chances are, you will get to keep custody of the child, as long as you know you are/will be a fit mother. Its good that he has charges against him, you can use that in your favor.
Listen, DON'T BE AFRAID! Stand up TALL, don't let him scare you about taking the baby. Let him know that you are keeping the baby with you and if he tries ANYTHING, you will go to the courts and the police!
2006-08-30 02:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋