I have this friend who is slightly more of a friend to me,
I think he's suicidal because the woman he was meant to be moving in with turned out to be, lets just say unfriendly, And he's depressed.
How can i cheer him up and maybe like me more?
2006-08-30 02:07:46 · 29 answers · asked by Laura_2k6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
give him bl0wj0b, he will love you after that
2006-08-30 02:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's naturally very painful to be rejected when his love was not reciprocated by the one he loves.
If you're yourself interested in him, this is not the best time to reveal your feeling. Otherwise he could misunderstand your intention. But by all means offer him a friendly shoulder to cry on should he needs one.
You said he is "slightly more than a friend" to you. I presume this is your own perception and not his. Whatever pains he is suffering now, time would eventually heal but with the support from close friends like yourself during this grieving period, the healing would be and hastened.
Prompt him to talk about his problems, disappointments, anger, and any other negative feelings and act as a good listener for him. Let him do all the talking. The ability to talk to some one close would lessen his pain.
You should know by now what "qualities" in a girl which attract him. Do you have such qualities yourself? If you do, then you could be a good candidate with whom he could one day fall in love. If not, offer other qualities that he might have overlooked.
Share what he likes and dislike. Take interest in his work and his hobbies etc. Your objective is to lead him to the realization one day that his “loss” or “failure” was a blessing in disguise because he has found a better girl, YOU!
2006-08-30 03:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the other advice about coming on to him. This is the last thing he wants when he has been let down so badly by this other woman - the one he really wanted.
If you did come on to him and he succumbed to your charms I don't think he would have as much respect for you long term as he would if you simply supported him as a friend. Let anything romantic between you blossom over a period of time; don't force it otherwise you could end up just being a bed buddy and not a proper girlfriend to this man.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 02:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by granny2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you describe him as a "Friend", but the last line of your question makes it sound like you want a more personal relationship with him. If that is so, then it might cheer him up to know that there is someone else who is interested in him.
However, if you plan to stay as friends, I can tell you from my own experience that when I am feeling down, I really appreciate the kind of caring & support my female friends bring to me.
2006-08-30 02:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him to talk too when he needs to, but don't go in with an ulterior motive, you don't want a guy on the rebound from someone else anyway, just be a friend for now and think about your feelings later, that's what he needs don't give him any more confusion.
2006-08-30 02:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Pinkgem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression can more than what you can see on the outside so make sure you are there for him in every way possible. The fact that it's over another girl be carefull you dont become a rebound.....Give him time to like you more and if he feels the same you will become what you want.
2006-08-30 02:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend. Don't get too physical in hugging etc as this may lead to confusion & he may make a pass at you. If thats what you want leave it a couple of weeks & then see what develops.
2006-09-02 08:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out (not clubs) but one on one do something you both have never done before climbing, bungee jump,or any thing else that gives you an healthy adrenaline rush it takes his mind of things , you and him wil get closer together and he wil remember that for a long time... guarantee this always works !!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-30 02:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physicality my love, give him lots of hugs!. It gets under anyone's deppressed guard and puts an embaressed soppy guilty/angry grin on their boatrace. If you like him, a few hugs will go down a treat, I don't think he will misenterpret them and try it on, it will give him some love to keep him sound, you know you can! With love from Tim.
2006-08-30 11:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it sounds more like you're interested in making him like you than you are in cheering him up.
be there as a friend, but do it because you care, not because you want to get with him on the rebound from this woman.
2006-08-30 02:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer - just show that you are there for him. He probably needs you as a friend right now.
2006-08-30 02:16:16 · answer #11 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋