Known a guy only 2 months on the personals, met him 3 times and really like him. He writes the most beautiful letters I have ever received in my life. They are articulate, humorous and witty.
If I don't respond with a note or phone call within HIS timeframe, he gets suspicious and accuses me of not wanting a possible relationship. What is the problem here? Does he have an overactive imagination or low self esteem or what?
He knows I also communicate and date others at times. We are not in an exclusive relationship yet, but I might like to be, if he were not so insecure and in need of constant reassurance.
Help please. Thanks.
2006-08-30 01:45:40 · 12 answers · asked by Pat K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl, it sounds like you might have your hands full if you date him. Tell him how you feel. express yourself to him. If is is articulate as you say that he is, then he will understand. He may have been hurt in another relationship, and is scared that it might happen again.
2006-08-30 01:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by luv him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you answered your own question...To me he sounds extremely insecure and suffers low-self esteem. That would send red flags up to me, Some men who are like that tend to be controlling and could be very dangerous ( I stress COULD BE, because let's face it I don't know him, just going by what you have said ) I would wonder if I were you why he is single if he is so articulate, humorous, and witty....I wouldn't say walk away just yet, If you really like him, but I would not be so quick to get into a serious relationship with a Man like that...Keep both eyes open and be careful. Good Luck
2006-08-30 08:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a delicate situation. Knowing someone only two months speaks volumes. If he can not handle your time frames now, imagine how he might react if you are dating him and you come home late, do not call at a certian time, or are not where you said you would be. It could get ugly.
Do not let articulation fool you. Just because someone is able to elaborate on their thoughts, feelings, etc... does not mean they are anymore wise than any other. I would definitely be cautious.
Lastly, don't give in to his demands. Just do what you want when you want without sacrificing your ideals to appease him. In the long run, his true colors will shine through.
2006-08-30 08:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your right he is a very insecure individual, and he will probably always be difficult in that area. I would not base a relationship on writing, a person can rewrite, change and edit a letter. You should get to know him better in real life, find out if his insecurities will be to much for you to handle. Or marry him on line and keep the relationship in cyber space.
2006-08-30 08:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beware of this man. You know if he was so wonderful he would have women friends without going to the personals to get a woman. You hear warnings to women about this type of person.
You say you are dating other men. I hope you will lose this guy, and you may have trouble doing that, so watch out. Ok?
2006-08-30 08:56:07 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering you are not an item yet this is pure possessiveness. He will smother you before you know it. Tell him that you really like him but that your getting freaked out by his time frames. Put him on the hot seat and see what he does.
2006-08-30 08:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by mackey208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise is not to continue this relationship.. And Dont put in anymore feelings into it...
i have such experience, once when we are really together, alot of arguements, control, suspicious, bla bla bla and always feeling alot of stress or kind of being pressurize..
2006-08-30 08:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already uneasy about this guy. So, keep on questioning it here. Don't let this get serious. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 08:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him quick..if he is trying to be this controlling now, you will have a bigger problem on your hands if you decide to commit.
2006-08-30 08:49:19 · answer #9 · answered by ritabird1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's possessive and insecure; intellect doesn't always translate to well-adjusted, unfortunately.
2006-08-30 08:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋