2006-08-30 01:45:15 · 16 answers · asked by john_0502000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although I haven't found the right person, I have a few suggestions...
Don't get caught up in the small insignificant petty crap.
Too many times the little things get in the way. If you let that happen, the big stuff will just roll over you both.
So, take turns washing the dishes, cleaning the house.,..stuff like that. Sometimes, just doing these things w/o asking each other to do them is a BIG plus.
Be CONSIDERATE of each other. Don't change the fricken channel when she's watching something just because a commercial comes on. Don't expect each other to do something just because you want them to. ALWAYS ask, NEVER assume. People get caught up in assumptions waaaay to often.
ALWAYS LISTEN to each other and give the benefit of the doubt.
Do little things for each other... get a card and leave it around the house-- does not matter if there's a Birthday or Anniversary or any special occasion... just do it because- hey, it's Wednesday...
Always be moving forward. Stagnent relationships fail. Avoid getting stuck in a rut. This does not mean you have to spend alot of money... just plan on going for a long bike ride or walk or to the beach, play Monopoly or Scrabble or Cards... but plan on spending time together.
One fun thing is going to register for gifts at a department store and shop shop shop... it's free and it's fun to fantasize about what you could acheive together... it's a great way to learn each others tastes
Also, plan on spending time apart as well. You don't have to be attached at the hip. You have friends, she has friends... you can't be each other's sole entertainment... that becomes burdensome.
It's not fair to each other. If you have kids, you can stay home w/kids while she goes out and vice versa. This way, you have something to talk about when they come back.
Here's just a few things... I'm sure there's plenty of experts out there. 1/2 of them have to write books to pay for their divorces though...
Good Luck!
2006-08-30 02:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep feelings for each other and a commitment to keep working to make things stronger. Being ready to give support to your spouse when needed and knowing they will do the same for you. Understanding that although you will have arguments, they are not the end of everything but a way to clear the air and keep working to make the marriage better. Being able to trust your spouse and they trust you because of the devotion you have to each other.
2006-08-30 02:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember why you married this person in the first place. Keep your union sacred, keep your friendship alive and fresh when you can. Choose to always be there for your partner, never to fix any problem with going to bed with another(lot's do). Have fun with your partner, time with your partner, communication of utmost importance in the relationship. Also know too that each will need space on occassion. Be trustworthy, be honest always, be loving/kind,and most important Love, Love, Love. Cheers!
2006-08-30 02:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a existence outdoors of your marriage is amazingly significant. Having some on my own time, pal time, etc. And save the romance on it somewhat is ft. distinctive intercourse positions, distinctive situations of the day, distinctive places..... and continuously have a date night. Later mom Russia
2016-09-30 04:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by dunkelberger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty,my husband is my best friend each of us have been married 3 times
this one 23 years is the best we trust each other we tell each other everything, I have NO secrets from him. If I think something might hurt him if I do it I don't do it.
I feel he is the same way with me. he is my rock.
2006-08-30 02:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Flame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret is communication and negotiation.
If you give in more than you take out, you'll never be a cause of any issues.
2006-08-30 01:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pick you fights. talk to each other don;t yell. Spend some time with each other. No kids just the 2 of you. do dome things he like s to do because you love him. and give all the love kindness that you possable can.
2006-08-30 02:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of love , mutual caring and respect to other's need , open like two old friends , who can share and discuss on any subject without mincing words .
2006-08-30 01:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patients, understanding and fighting from time to time. No need to harvest bad feelings. Most importantly being friends and accepting when someone is wrong. Saying I'm sorry doesn't hurt either.
2006-08-30 01:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by mackey208 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When both parties put the other in first place
2006-08-30 01:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by Annie R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋