i have been seeing this guy for 6 mths.. I am 12 days late.. he asked me straght out if I was pregnant becasue he says i am acting weird.. I was evasive but i don't think he bought it.. i have had 1 - test result and 2 positive.. I am not sure as to what to tell him.. with out him freaking out..I want to be certain but I also want some help now.. I can't go to the Dr. now my insurance is not in effect until the middle of Sept.. gray area.. Please advise..
2006-08-30 01:43:45 · 15 answers · asked by red74 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Positive results are pretty accurate..Might as well tell him now and see how he reacts
2006-08-30 01:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by dwh12345 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but you need to tell him the truth! Don't start out on the wrong foot by lying to him, that is never the answer. Sounds like you don't want to have a baby, or you are afraid he is going to leave. You should have told him about the tests when he asked you, he probably WILL freak out because you were evasive instead of being truthful.
2006-08-30 02:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. There is no easy way to know his view untill you discuss it.
Was there no access to contraception? One of you should have mentioned protection! He's an asshole for not considering it. You should have said NO unless he was wearing a condom.
Go to a free health clinic if you have to. They can properly check you out and it could cost you nothing financially.
Meanwhile, it's going to be a long journey now if you decide to have the child or terminate. It's not easy to bring a child into the world and it's not easy to build a realtionship around a baby... which by the way grows up real quickly.
Just take care of yourself and no matter what you decide, never lose sight of your own self worth.
2006-08-30 02:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Christopher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am not a guy but i do now this he has asked you if you are pregnant straight out as you put it
so i think you should tell him straight out the truth and by the sounds of it your pregnant
Be truthfull b4 you end up pregnant and alone!
all the best to you on this and all the luck in the world sent your way i hope you chosse 2 do the right thing
2006-08-31 01:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by cottencandy2391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local Planned Parenthood for a test. This is why they are available. They will also counsel you about being pregnant. I am pretty sure you are pregnant, so check with Planned Parenthood and then let your bf know. If you loves you and cares about you he will stick around. He may be in shock and a little upset for awhile, but if he truly cares for you he will stay put.
Best of Luck to you.
2006-08-30 04:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by melissa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to some place private, then first tell him that you have something really important to discuss with him. Tell him not to freak (and you also must be calm about this). Observe him closely and look into his eyes and then tell him.
Pay close attention to his reaction, there is only two possibilities, either he is ok with it or he is not ok. You must be prepared for either response. Once he has reveiled his disposition on the matter then you can look at your next set of possibilites and options.
Good Luck!
2006-08-30 01:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going to the doctor is just a formality. You probably are. A few questions you need to answer:
Do you want to stay with him if he freaks out?
Do you want to have the baby?
Do you have family and/or friends for support?
Every city has facilities for girls in your position. You are not alone. You have Google. Find them.
Hang in there girl. Whatever you decide I wish you the best.
2006-08-30 01:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since your insurance doesn't start till Sept. go to a clinic or planned parenthood for a dicounted or free test.
Be mature and tell him. If you two think your are mature enough to have sex then you both should be mature enough to accept the fact that you might have made a baby. If he can't accept it then he should have kept his penis in his pants.
2006-08-30 01:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by ......... . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were evasive?
GREAT way to start off a relationship.
might as well tell him its not his, you've been sleeping around or something......
why cant you just be honest and let him deal with the TRUTH?
people amaze me, they lie when they dont have to, they lie when they wake up, and when they go to bed.
no wonder guys think women are full of it most of the time.
too many lies. over everything.
2006-08-30 01:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by digital genius 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't play games ! if your not prepared for this then i hope your not but if he feels about you the way you feel about him then put it out in the open . and let him know because the longer you keep it a secert some guys might think it entrapment. and the Adult thing to do is to be upfront. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-30 02:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by hardhardworker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy, but if your test is positive, and he is asking, tell him. You cared for him enough to have sex with him, so you need to care for him enough to tell him you really probably are pregnant, insurance or not. good luck.
2006-08-30 01:47:36 · answer #11 · answered by MZ02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋