he's constantly calling me names like &itch and fat whore and ugly and things like that but when we're not fighting we are perfect for each other. we fight about how to take care of our son and even if i'm going to use my credit card or not .. he treats me like a child .. mama says i should leave .. whats your opinion?
2006-08-30 01:43:20 · 12 answers · asked by bLank 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is he still your fiance?
If he is calling you names like that now, what do you think it is going to be like if you marry him?
How can you say he is perfect for you, when he speaks to you so disrespectfully?
Tell him straight out… either he speaks to you and treats you with respect, or the Wedding is off!!!
Think of the effect it would have on your son, for him to grow up in such an environment.
Do you think he would learn to have respect for women, if he kept hearing you being spoken to in such a manner. If you allowed it to continue, you would soon find your son speaking to you in the same manner, and your husband would be encouraging him to do so.
You are entitled to be respected. If you don’t put an end to the name-calling now, it will end up costing you your self-respect!!!
2006-08-30 01:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG woman too a lot drama! ok so 1st when you're gonna marry this guy you ought to have self assurance him. yet inspite of i'm getting it my guy cheated on me and that i stuck him by using gazing his cellular so I completely listen you. What you ought to have performed is after sorting out he did not something in basic terms left it at that. in no way call the lady, ugh. reason now its acquaintances vs you in his concepts and now he also has to regulate understanding #a million you dont have self assurance him and #2 you're gonna bypass wacko if he ever has a chum thats a lady previous or modern. those are important turn offs for a guy. This woman isn't any chance notwithstanding the more beneficial you contact her the more serious it makes YOU look, and also you dont wanna look undesirable in his eyes. id txt her and say u r sorry that you acquire afraid he changed into dishonest, you've chilly toes for marrage..inspite of. enable her recognize -no matter if you acquire to grit your tooth as you type it-that your sorry you went psycho. AND leave IT AT THAT. swallow that delight. Its not worth it. you acquire the guy excellent? Then tell ur guy "toddler Im sorry, you're such an excellent guy i'm afraid that different females will scouse borrow u away reason you're that enormous of a guy." pull some tears and be straightforward and he receives over it. DONT DO IT back training realized- #a million have self assurance your guy #2 in case you do snoop keep it completely hidden except you hit upon he's dishonest for actual reason then he will cover stuff even more beneficial!
2016-11-23 14:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that everyone says things out of anger! However I say nip him in he budd right now! Let him know you don't appreciate nor do you like when he speaks to you in this manner! Second, I understand that you all are going to eventually get married but your NOT! So let him know until you all are married your finances are just that and his input is not needed also let him know that even when you all do get married he still will not control Your finances even when you all do get married the only thing that will change is the fact that you will both have to contribute! Lastly, let him know that your child is yours as well and that you have maternal instinct and unless you need his assistance or positive input you don't need the extra conversations! Lastly, if you speak and make your position known from here on out he will know what you will not tolerate!.
2006-08-30 02:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a man that verbally abuses you! Hell yes you should leave. Not only is he abusive he's also controlling. There will only be a matter of time before he gets physical....get out now! This is serious and take it from someone with experience you don't want to deal with any more of his drama. Please do not try and rationalize his behavior by saying that he's nice when you are not fighting because you are only lying to yourself. A real man would never call a woman out of her name even while mad.
2006-08-30 02:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom is always right. Guess what you start with the name calling ( which is usually how they feel about you) than when they get tired of that ( because they are still miserable in the relationship) it can escalate to hatred etc. Just leave before things get ugly. Have some respect for yourself.
2006-08-30 01:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by mackey208 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your momma. Get out of there. He doesn't love you. Someone who loves you would not say those things to hurt you.
Why do you put up with this? Why do you think he should be allowed to treat you like this? You deserve better. Do you want your child to learn this behavior and treat his own girl friends that way?
2006-08-30 02:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you are perfect for each other?? A person who really loves you would never treat you like that. I feel really bad for your son.
2006-08-30 02:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is set in his ways. If you don't mind being treated like that and the name calling stay and have a great life
2006-08-30 01:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what yu want in your life. dont compromise.a man treats a woman the way shethinks of herelf .if yu show him yu are deserving of this abuse he will continue abusing yu.if yu feel yu dont deserve happiness or respect he will not respect or make u happy .yu have one life make the most of it.only yu can deside not ur mother or us just decide how important ur happiness is to you
2006-08-30 02:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by hieandbye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have counseling first. if that don't work then you need to think about leaving. No one should be treat that way.
2006-08-30 02:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋