we were close and i cant seem to get over it.he was the only person on earth that knew and understood me and i was the same for him.i dont expect any new revelations about grieving but i would like to know of others experience with this heartache
2006-08-30 01:41:43 · 14 answers · asked by pokerplayer16101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im really sorry to hear abt ur bro.. bt u gotta realize that everyone has to go someday yeah it will b hard to let go bt it will take some time to get use to it all u need to do is know that hes better off there than here would u rather have him here exp all the bad sh*t thats happening im sure u look at the news all the killings and ppl getting shot for nothing at all this world is no placefor angels .. i also let my mum and dad go and they are better off there i dont have to worry abt bad guys getting to them coz they are under gods protection ...
2006-08-30 01:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my only brother, (only sibling) about 20 years ago. He was 18 I was 11. We were pretty close too. I won't lie to you it is still
hard to deal with sometimes. I didn't have him around for graduation, my wedding, my kids & husband will never know him.I just take comfort in knowing that he is still with me every day of my life. I also know that I will see him again someday.You really need to taketime to grieve. I still grieve even after 20 years. But live you life your brother would'nt want you miss out on anything.
2006-08-30 01:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by candib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We never stop missing our lost loved ones. Have you tried looking in the Bible for comfort? People all over the world have been doing that for years to help them out when they are troubled. You should try it. In the Bible it gives a promise that God has made to us. A promise that you would find interesting. God promises us that those ones lost in death will live again! Resurrected here on Earth after Armageddon. The Earth is going to be restored to the paradise that is was suppose to be, like in the Garden of Eden. And that all of the people who survive Armageddon, and those resurrected will be perfect and live forever like Adam and Eve would have if they had not sinned. I know that this might sound strange to you but think about it like this. God loves us, He created us and this beautiful world with different animals to watch, different flowers each with it's own scent to enjoy, different foods for us to taste, sunsets and snowflakes that have no two alike, He has done all of those things because he wants us to live forever and be happy on this Earth. Why would he go through all of that trouble and love us so much if he didn't want us to be happy. He is going to make this happen and only His true followers will be there to enjoy it. And those resurected will be happy to be welcomed back by their loved ones. And we know that God has the power to resurect, since He has the power to bring us to life in the first place. And Jesus resurected people by God's power as well. There is lots of information, and comfort to be found from reading the Bible. And if you want an aid in searching, go to www.watchtower.org to help you be able to look deeper into the meanings of what you find in the Bible. I know you love your brother, and that you want to see him again, you do have the chance. Look into the Bible and see that the answer is there. You love him enough to find the way don't you?
2006-08-30 01:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal and necessary to grieve for a loved one. I have lost so many of my family, my husband so I know about grief.However, you do need to move forward. You will never ever
forget your brother. I have lost brothers too. From a large family there are 3 of us left. I went to work after my husband died because the busier you are the better. Not saying you shouldn't think of the deceased, just don't dwell on it all the time. We honor them by living our lives to the fullest!!
2006-08-30 01:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my sister, who just happened to be my best friend, 8 years ago and I still miss her. I am not an overly religious person, but I say a prayer to her every morning and still speak to her from time to time...especially when I'm walking along the beach or I see something really stupid and funny...are best times were people watching and just laughing at some of the dumb things people can do when they think no one is watching.
2006-08-30 04:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by Wakatah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, this is your brother we are talking about here. Of course you are not going to "get over it" ... EVER! You have to realize that and just learn how to deal with it. When people lose someone who is that close to them they don't get over it, they just eventually learn to deal with it. Do things that keep you busy, get involved in community things or just something if it bothers you that much. I hope I don't seem to harsh but sometimes that is what people need to really hear the truth. Good luck.
2006-08-30 01:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my grandpa 9 years ago, and I still miss him and I don't think that will stop, I was very close to him he showed me everything, I learn allot from him, it is normal that you miss him and it will never stop, he will be always apart of your life, just try to think at the good times you had with him and when you will have kids, tell them about him and what fun you had with him
2006-08-30 01:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by tani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually grieving is good for you..........It may hurt, but its good.
All I can suggest is to thinik of your brother and all the things you did together growing up...Remember the good times...Try to remember him and what he did or said that left an impression on your heart........Think positively of him......Sorry for your loss..
Do yourself a favor and find pictures and buy a scrapbook kit....play his favorite music on low while you create fond memories...............This would be very therapeutic for you.
Advice:::make an extra copy of pictures b/4 you cut them up.
2006-08-30 01:56:26 · answer #8 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First.. you're by no ability to blame for any area of your companion's affair. no rely what's informed to you, they are the only that made the superb option to have an affair. such distinctive human beings get this incorrect and walk around blaming themselves for his or her companion's infidelity. you're to blame to your area of your relationship, which isn't the affair. he's one hundred% to blame for his affair. He owns it, no longer you. shop your ideas busy. once you finally end up thinking of the "stupid little issues", grab a e book, do a puzzle, turn on the television, call a pal, something to get your ideas on different issues. Letting your ideas toss the soreness around in basic terms makes issues worse. My husband had an affair 4 years in the past, our marriage recovered superbly. What bothers me nevertheless is that the guy he had an affair with claimed to be my chum besides, and that i've got by no ability been waiting to get closure to the anger I even have in the direction of her for a manner she betrayed me (and that i won't be able to as we've erased her in each and every way from our lives). inspite of although occurs between a married couple, keep in mind that any one choosing to have an affair with a married individual additionally holds accountability through fact as adults, all of us understand what's and is no longer "suited", and if somebody is responsive to the cheating companions companion, that makes them each and all the extra merciless of their strikes. the alternative of love is indifference, no longer hate.. the "different lady" continuing to talk approximately her affair which incorporate your husband tells me she nevertheless holds a torch for him. some women persons in basic terms won't be able to get it that the affair a married guy had with them became into "in basic terms intercourse" and not something extra. yet then, somewhat, how many women folk persons choose to settle for they have been used and disposed of like the day previous's trash? in my opinion, and that's in basic terms my opinion, you the two would desire to severe all ties to her with a view to discover the peace you go with. while you're continuously reminded of her through fact he has to work out her at his activity, your wound will by no ability heal. There are extra jobs interior the international, yet good marriages are can no longer get replaced.
2016-12-17 19:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by bunton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experience it myself, it is something that will always affect you. It has been 12 years since I lost someone and it still hurts. There will always be things to remind you of your brother or you will always have things to tell him. It gets easier but it is always there.
2006-08-30 01:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by scratch golfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋