Why are we jealous sometimes is it good? or is it silly? does it bring any good ? and can you ban it out youre life? what would happen if its gone?what is youre opinion, what do you think?
2006-08-30 01:01:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jealousy must be one of the most wretched feelings in the world and it is so hard to stop it. Like a giant malicious worm in the stomach. It stems from feelings of insecurity and the more jealous you feel the more your behaviour changes (for the worse) and the more likely the other person is to be drawn to other people.
To make matters worse, some people like their partners/friends to feel jealous of them to increase their own feelings of self importance. They too are, deep down, insecure.
The good news is that as you get older you feel more confidence in yourself and less jealous. You get to a state where you don't need other people's approval for what you do, you are perfectly happy to do what you want to do, dress how you want, go out where and when you want, even on your own. Then, when you enter into a new relationship, if the other person does things which might have made you jealous in the past, you are unaffected by it. If they flirt with other people or are constantly eyeing up other people you can ditch them - no big deal.
Eventually you will find someone for whom you are the most important person in their lives and with that will come mutual trust so when you or they spend time with other people, laughing and joking, you will feel secure that you or they are simply being friendly and sociable and that there is no threat. In fact, it won't even occur to you that there might be.
2006-08-30 01:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by granny2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a useless emotion that really serves no purpose, well maybe a negative one. Nonetheless, all it does is cause problems in relationships. Trust me i know. My ex was so jealous of my male friends who didnt even stay in the same state. How silly is that. He would try to put two and two together of what i was saying on the phone and what other people were saying and he always got the conversation wrong probably cause he wasnt in it in the first place. But anyway, ultimately he told me i couldnt talk to one of my male friends (the one who lives out of state) I told him that I wasnt going to do that cause what kind of character would I have to stop talking to some one just so they wont be jealous. Jealousy can lead to more problems such as controlling issues and even abuse, and I wont entertain that. if I would have did that it would not have stop his jealousy because it wasnt me or my friend it was his own insecurities and i would have helped him be more insecure in the future if all i did was tip toe around him and pacify his jealousy.
2006-08-30 09:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good and a bad thing, depending on how you channel it - i.e. being spurred on by somebody's success can make you aim higher. The worst kind of jealousy is bound up with human relationships and it's often difficult to understand why someone left you for another person, it makes you focus too deeply on what went wrong for no apparent reason.
2006-08-30 08:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally cannot stand jealousy, when I get jealous it is only because I am insecure and I SHOULDN'T be insecure! It is very frustrating. Too, it's a life long battle one has to face. You'll never be able to strike it from your personality, only learn to grow and control it (it's like a demon that you need to slay). Work on yourself and surround yourself with people who motivate you and encourage you, that helps out tremendously. Too, reciprocate by encouraging, complimenting and motivating others as well. Pay it forward, it works.
2006-08-30 08:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many reasons that we are jealous creatures. We are human and always want to excel to be the best. There is always going to be someone better looking than you, someone smarter, and someone richer. There is nothing that we can do about that. There are 7 billion people on this earth not only us to conquer it. Don't let it get to you.
2006-08-30 10:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Katt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is an emotion. Sometimes I think it is good to be Jealous, Jealous love for your spouse and relatives would cause you to act protectively at appropriate times perhaps, it displays a strong Love for someone.
Mostly it is an undesirable quality though.
2006-08-30 08:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only time I wasn't jealous was when my bf admitted sleeping with another girl and I actually felt sorry for her. We split up.
Jealousy is a good indicator of how we feel about ourselves (insecure) or others (scared of losing them)
I can't stand it, but I can't live without it
'I bubble and boil
Idignant and tired
A poor fleshy mortal
Destructively wired'
2006-08-30 08:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by trebs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing good about jealousy! It takes too much energy to even be jealous ESPECIALLY concerning situations YOU can NOT control. Get over it.
2006-08-30 08:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The green eyed bandit is normal but not goot if it controls ur life confidence helps to keep it at bay
2006-08-30 08:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is difficult to control and can be a very negative emotion , particularly where relationships are concerned.
to be envious of someone is slightly different. we can envy someone and yet be pleased for them. we may even use it as an incentive to achieve something for ourselves.
2006-08-30 08:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋