ever since i met this boy I know that he is a gay or bi male. bec. of his acts and voice but still im falling for him. I can't help it. I see him w/ some other gurls not boys. What should I do? Shpuld i love him or not? HOW????
2006-08-30 00:29:20 · 13 answers · asked by Crystal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ask your dad
2006-08-30 00:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love him as a friend first. Take a lot of time to get to know him and maybe ask him out on a couples date or set up a double date. Ask the other couples opinion after the date. Love can be blind so be careful. It would be difficult to ask another guy about what they consider to be gay because there stereotypes that guys do not want to fit into but it might be just a trait he picked when he was growing up. Good luck.
2006-08-30 07:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey sweetheart I'm sorry for your dilemma. my best friend was gay and i have seen what it did to him and the woman around him. so please listen to me. I'm not saying that there is no way to change him but it is very difficult. the bible says to guard your heart and this is why. he may like you today and tomorrow but their are no guarantees for the future. he may always like you and care about you but he may never be able to commit to any one. when i used to go out with my friend who is gay he would look at men often. one time in a restaurant he was giddy laughing and i thought this behavior was very odd for him a man because it was very feminine. when i asked him he told me that some cute guy was smiling at him. oh yea this was right after he was divorced. please be careful guard your heart i don't want to see you get hurt and remember there are alot of other guys out there who can love your heart.
2006-08-30 07:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by tan t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't waste your time honey. If he is gay you can't change him and he won't be attracted to you. If he is bi- that can be hard to live with. Find someone who suits you better.
2006-08-30 07:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what Mary wrote. If you decide you must love him & begin a relationship with him would you be able to handle his attraction to other males. A relationship with this man would have built in difficulties which you would not be able to control. Listen to what Mary wrote.
2006-08-30 07:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try:If you really want him and love him, teach him to fall in love with you and only you. make him forget about guys let him know what a woman can do for him that a guy can't do. Girl, just put it on him. Make him a man, and keep him that way. but if that doesn't work yeah, forget him you'll be wasting your time if you keep trying? Good Luck!!!
2006-08-30 07:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Love isn't easy to control so just write him a love letter and send it to him.If you're brave enough,ask him to eat out and ask if he loves you or hates you.
2006-09-03 05:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by heidi_springle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him go for it why is it because hes gay?
come on girl follow your heart don't listen to the other voices listen to yourself what do you want?
2006-08-30 09:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't choose whether or not you love someone. it's not something you can help feeling.
if he's bi, go for it. if he isn't, then you can't even hope for anything to happen.
2006-08-30 14:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by kittens 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Find out if he is gay or straight.
2006-08-30 10:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's gay, u can't change him, he won't attracted with u. just find another boys.
2006-08-30 08:01:11 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋