I am pretty woman i know it and that compliment doesnt came from me but people around me too and i also won in some beauty competition.....i was just surprise that when i got married and me and my husband is together out or in any place....i sometimes catch him looking to other girls....we fight and talk about it coz my point is what if ill be looking at any hondsome hunk too or my attention would be there if were together....then slwoly by slowly he stop looking to any girls...but there are really some times wherein secretly i really caught him looking to a girl in a shop or streets.....im jsut thinking whats wrong with me......im asian and he is white.....it really destroys my day and mood whenver i catch him coz for me its a big insult.......!!!!!!!!!!any words from u?is it normal?is it a guy thing?are u guys not contented of what u have?...im confused....
2006-08-29 23:39:26 · 15 answers · asked by char 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not right if you're married... If he married you, he should be satisfied just looking at you and not looking at other girls...
You're the wife, you can tell him what bothers and hurts you, ask what's the problem.. or either do a makeover to surprise him..
I'm proud that husband doesn't do that... He says that he would never look at girls anymore, just me.. I'm also Asian and he's also white American... WHY LOOK FOR SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU HAVE THE WORLD BESIDE YOU? even if you says its a harmless look, you never know.... think about it, its normal but would you go with the normal thing? what's the point of defending human nature if you have a civilized mind to use and act as a married person... ask yourself why can you not resist on just looking at someone else besides your partner... Marriage is not just compromising... It's also what you feel, a sense of completion because you finally found the one who completes you...
Wish your mood gets better as well as your relationship...
2006-08-30 00:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by kim B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Despite what other folks say it has been proven beyond a scientific doubt that it is human nature for guys to look at other women and vice versa. It has nothing to do with your husband losing interest in you, or he doesn't love you anymore, or other things along those lines. Talk to him about how you feel but don't be disappointed if he continues to look. He can't help it. I point other women out to my other half, always have. It doesn't bother me because I know that he is with me, only me, and nothing will change that. We can look, but when you touch is when you cross the line. Take confidence that your husband is with you and know that being a pretty woman as well, other guys are looking at you - even if you don't notice it, your husband does.
2006-08-29 23:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by pagudus6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a guy to look at other women. You can be the most beautiful woman he's with but he will still look at other women simply because men are very visual. They appreciate any beauty when they see it. With that said, so do women. If it's bothering you then he needs to stop doing it in front of you but it's unrealistic to make him stop altogether. Since you said you're pretty, then have the self confidence to back it up. Don't let it ruin your day. Besides, as long as your husband knows it's you he wants to be with, you should have nothing to worry about. It doesn't matter if he's asian or white, men are men and they will look.
P.S. both my husband and myself look at the opposite sex. It doesn't mean anything.
2006-08-29 23:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Typical white male- lustful look in their eyes. May I ask if he was already like that when you were still not married? You have to understand that many men are like that but a few of them are not. You should also accept that when you married him you married the nice and not-so-nice things about him. You have to be open how you feel so he will be cautious when you are around. Or I do not know if this is a good idea....can you try reverse psychology?? Look at men (obviously when he is around and he can see you look at other men) do it...and see what happens....-yunesa@yahoo.com
2006-08-29 23:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to inform you, but you are being WAY too hard on him. Guys are going to look just like girls look. It's human nature. It doesn't have anything to do with his love for you or his attraction for you. Some guys don't even realize when they do it. I hate to tell ya but he won't stop because he can't. No one can. As long as he doesn't touch or make disrespecting comments, there shouldn't be a problem. I can't stress enough that it has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Cut him some slack. Everyone checks out other people. It can't be avoided. Lighten up.
2006-08-29 23:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS perfectly normal, but it's not just a guy thing; women look at other men just as often as men look at other women. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are/think you are. Whether they are married, single or somewhere in between, people like to check out members of the opposite sex. Unless he starts exhibiting other strange behaviors I wouldn't sweat it one bit.
Now, if he starts checking out other GUYS, then it'd be time to worry.
2006-08-29 23:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he looks at you when it really counts, don't make it much that he loves to play "watchtower" and beam to the girls. He knows he's with you really and I won't be surprised if he's damn proud of that. Another thing is that women and girls for some reason look more at men with a woman on their arm, maybe it is their sense of safety or whatever. Just you make sure you know who he is to you and that he knows who you are to him and live up to that.
2006-08-29 23:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God get over your insecurity. All men and women look at each other. If we didn't we would be dead.
There is a saying. You can look but don't touch.
He is married to you and he goes home with you and he sleeps with you. Who do you think he wants to be with. YOU.
Its OK for you both to look. My wife will even point out beautiful women to me when we are out. She will ask me if I saw her. Most of the time I say yes I did. I will point out guys to her at times. We look and admire or laugh at how others might dress. BUT! We know we really only want one thing and that's us together.
Stop worrying. It is normal for all of us to look.
2006-08-29 23:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that u have a little complex about your origins and race.. this is your mistake.
We have eyes to look, to see... and it is normal to look around and watch other people.. and maybe to study re-action of others to see how much we are lucky.. due to we have a such beautiful girl on the side.. or simply to see that there are a lot of women.. that are also very nice, but my wife is the most one.....
Try to think in this way and not to see the worst.. or a betrayal... it is just our way to be human beings.. an be sure that if you're married with him he doesn't care about your race or origin.. believe in it and your love ..
2006-08-30 00:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not just a guy thing.....whether we be male or female,
we all enjoy looking at things of beauty....it's only natural....
and far more pleasing on the eye than " UGLY ! "
2006-08-30 02:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋