A lot of people gave me good advice and I want to thank you. Our cell bill doesnt show outgoing or incoming calls, only minutes used. I still want to investigate this somehow. It's easy to erase call history off your phone.. I keep harping on this so much, because I'm getting ready to marry this man that I love with all my heart..Also I can't help but to think when I was away for a week in December they were together.. I wasnt thinking about it until I found her phone numbers.. I don't want to accuse him for nothing but also don't want to be hurt..I want to confront her but don't want him upset with me for calling her and asking her.. What kind of any decent woman would mess with another womans man? What should I do?
2006-08-29 23:25:12 · 8 answers · asked by Tracy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't marry someone you don't trust.
How is that complicated? Why would you want to marry someone you don't trust? Marrying someone you don't trust is unfair to both of you. Being in a marriage in which there is no trust is miserable. In order to guarantee that you will get a divorce from the man you marry, marry a man you distrust.
You don't need phone details. You don't need to accuse him. Why not? Because you already know everything you need to know: YOU DON'T TRUST HIM! In order to decide whether or not to go into a marriage, that is ALL you need to know. Nothing has to be proven, nothing has to be confronted.
Do not marry a man you do not trust! It won't last.
2006-08-30 02:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get on the Internet and it should have a more detailed bill available (I'm not sure which carrier you have) through the carrier's web site? Since this is obviously bothering you very much, you need to ask your fiance. Otherwise, you will drive yourself crazy and if you're anything like me, your imagination might get the best of you. Don't accuse him of anything or angrily confront him, just talk to him. Explain to him what you're feeling. If you guys are anything like my bf and I, you know when he's lying (mine won't look me in the eye and his explanations are very far fetched). Either way, you need to bring it up. I also advise you not to marry him until the trust has been restored in your relationship. You don't want to start a marriage with any problems because then they just get worse, not better. I understand what you're going through and wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-08-29 23:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I remember your question from the other day. I would suggest requesting a detailed report from his cell phone company. They should be able to provide this for you. I don't know how much it will cost but if you must have proof, then it's worth it. Since you have doubts about his loyalty, I would suggest that you postpone your marriage until this issue is ironed out. You don't want this to come up later on. It needs to be resolved before you get married.
2006-08-30 00:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cell phone company and request an itemized bill. They may charge a $1 for it, but it would at least settle things. They may be able to send you one from previous months. If she is messing with your man (that's a big if), she isn't a decent woman.
2006-08-30 00:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the other woman falls for the lies that the man is telling her. The "Other Woman" usually will not stick around unless she thinks she has a chance with that man. That could be based off of her own dilusions or something he is telling her. He is lieing to her to. The best thing for you to do would be to call her and put it to rest. Then you need to decide where to go from there.
2006-08-30 03:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cell phone company should be able to give you a detailed report of incoming and outgoing calls. You may have to pay extra for it, but it seems worth it. But if you don't trust this guy, then don't go through with it.
2006-08-29 23:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, request for a detailed phone bills from you telephone provider, am sure they will be considerate enough to provide you one. try to investigate thoroughly and then when u think it's time to confront him, go ahead. dont confront the girl, cuz in the first place if your fiance really loves and respect you he will not mess around with another girl.....i know how hard to be in a situation where you are confuse and dunno which one is which however always remember that in a relationship it's always head over the heart.... am sure you will be smart enough to handle this.... good luck!!!
2006-08-30 00:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mr & Mrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either need to learn trust or walk away and if you have this many doubts sounds like you do not trust him. Please do not get married, this issue is not going to resolve itself. Think about talk to her she will probably tell you the truth, just make sure that you are prepared to hear it. Screw him if he does not like you calling her and asking her for the truth. Other alternative go to a pyshic. Good luck
2006-08-29 23:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋