2 years ago I went out partying with a friend pretty much all night while we were out camping. we met up with some guys AND girls and stayed out all night. we met up again the next night. we didn't do anything, no fooling around was involved. just a lot of drinking and having fun. the guy showed interest in me but that was it. After we went home and went our separate ways I made the BIG mistake of contacting him thinking we could be friends. My husband didn't agree. I was excited that this guy showed interest in me however I've been happily married for 15 years and have no desire of hooking up with anyone else. Anyways, 2 years later it's still causing problems. We went back camping to the same place this year and this same guy came looking for me!! I told him I couldn't talk to him and told him to leave. My husband is still upset. When should my husband get over this and TRUST me again?
2006-08-29 22:56:53 · 30 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let me explain again. we were at a nascar race camp site. my husband, my friend and a bunch of others were all camping together. my friend and I went for a walk, met up with other people and went off with these other people to go partying. my husband stayed at camp. And I did not fool around with the guy!
2006-08-29 23:08:21 · update #1
in about the same amount of time it would take you to TRULY get over a fine sexy girl wanting to hook up with your man and your man JUST calling her to be friends with...........
2006-08-29 23:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was excited that this guy showed interest in me however I've been happily married for 15 years and have no desire of hooking up with anyone else.
That seems to be the most contradicting line of all. I would have a problem if you are excited that another uy is showing a little more then interest. I have to agree with the others it is hard to believe "nothing" happened. What is drinking and having fun exactly?
2006-08-29 23:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you left your husband at camp site and went off and party with others and met some guys. HELLO. You don't get it.
Put yourself the other way. Your husband left you and went off with friends and met this woman and stayed out all night and partied but nothing happened according to him. Later on your husband contacted one of these women because she showed interest and your husband just wanted to be friends.
HELLO.
Do you get it yet. You most likely would go nuts and never trust him again.
You are not to show interest with the other sex
Good luck in trying to get your husband to trust you again. I don't think he will ever forget. It is not his fault. Your the one the caused it not him
2006-08-29 23:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had not done anything to break his trust,
you wouldn't have this issue. I would have a hard time believing that there is "nothing" going on when the other man suddenly shows up at you family outing. You can understand the tension, because you tried to send him away. You know that situation wasn't right, or you wouldn't have the feelings of needing to be restored to a trusted position. Your husband is still with you, that shows he is at least willing to try to rebuild a trust. The real question is what will you do to help rebuild?
2006-08-29 23:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by dcall2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 01:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I guess I would be annoyed that this guy is still looking for you and it would make me think "what happened that he would want to pursue you?" Nothing may have happened but it still begs the question. And also alcohol always impairs your judgment so that also makes it difficult to believe nothing happened. You just need to reassure your husband that it was an error in judgment and next time you will do everything together and not separate. Good luck.
2006-08-29 23:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a stranger, I believe you but if the same thing happened to me, I would have left you. You never should have gone without your husband just out of respect but ok, the guy had a woman also but then you contacted him??? What did you learn???? You need to take him to church and tell him there and "maybe" under those cercumstanses will he believe you. Good luck on that though.
2006-08-29 23:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i cant believe nothing happened and i dont even know u!!ur poor husband !who goes over night camping for 2 nites with guys u dont know!!i would be very upset if i was ur husband u have got some serious explaining to do
2006-08-29 23:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were your husband, I would be angry too. Flirting with other men and partying all night is disrespectful. You can't honestly think that the other guy only wanted to be your friend, you can't be that nieve.
Your husband might start trusting you when start acting trustworthy and taking responsibility for your actions.
2006-08-29 23:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by Honey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
partying friends are not the kind of friends that are into lasting relationship, you did make a big mistake, two one telling your husband and two leading on the guy you met, he wasnt thinking of friendship, he was thinking of getting in your pants, thats all, next time pick the right time to make new friends, your husband may never get over this, your lucky your husband didnt beat up the guy, i would of in a heart beat
2006-08-29 23:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by paki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I'd be upset! Hey it's normal to be curious if someone is interested in you. If you're really not sexually or romantically into this other guy, and it shows, well, after 15 years of marrige, your husband should trust you! Else he doesn't know you at all!!
2006-08-29 23:06:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋