I 've always been earning well & used to give all the money to my wife. she has saved most of the money & her complete income. Now she has bought good property also out of that money & has a good bank balance. I never worried about it but suddenly i came to know when my bank balance is zero & she has purchased all the property & my my money also in her name, that she is looking for some matrimonial match for herself. I have seen her ads on matrimonial sites & I know that those were posted by her only. She remains on chattings for long hours ie 3-4 hours with the prospective matches. All this is not only my doubts but I have the proofs also.
Now I feel cheated. I have a daughter also living with us. Neither I can leave them nor i know what to do?
Please help.
2006-08-29 22:36:18 · 17 answers · asked by akela 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really need tos sit down and talk to her. Remember if you two divorce your daughter will probably go with her there fore your money paid off to your daughter money is nothing and it can always be replaced try to repair your marriage first that more important then any amount of money!
2006-08-29 22:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you are married to her most states will not allow her to purchase property without your name being on the deed. You don't have to be on the mortgage, but you should have been on the deed. Some steps you need to do now before you loose even more money. Get a lawyer. Get copies of all of the property she was able to get in her name only and a list of property you have together. Open a separate account that she does not have access to. If your employer offers direct deposit of your pay you need to have part of your money go into the joint account and the rest go into your personal sole account. You need to go to the bank and get copies of your states for the last year. It will cost you, but you should have been looking at your statements before now or you would not have been in the problem. (Sorry no sympathy.) If you want and you have proof your wife is an unfit mother you can try for custody of your daughter.
Your wife has had a long time to hide your money; it is past time you learned what was going on. You also may want to get a po box that she does not have access to.
I have never understood why people allow one spouse to control everything. That's how people get cheated or their credit gets messed up.
Finally, if you do get a divorce and there is any credit that is in both of your names and the judge divides, you need to make sure your lawyer has it in the divorce decree that each of you have a limited time to get the credit put in the name of the person who will be responsible. Example: You have vehicles or property in both of your names and the judge says she will be responsible for this property and that car. You need to have the judge also put in the decree that she will have 6 months to have the property or other credit refinanced in her name only. Also in the decree it should state that if the property cannot be refinanced then it will need to be sold and the proceeds divided equally. Make sure you have the joint credit closed no matter what. And if it is a small balance be prepared to pay it off. Do not buy in that the divorce decree will protect your credit. I have seen too many people who are divorced but had property or other credit joint with the ex and never had it refinanced to a $0 balance so that the person who is not responsible for the debt by the decree will not have it on their credit. In the financial world that divorce decree means NOTHING if you have joint credit.
As late as it is for you, you can start to protect yourself. And hopefully in your next relationship you will be a lot more responsible.
2006-08-29 23:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by lady01love 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you must be going through. Relationships always work from both the ends. If there is no attachment from her end, then there is no point of carrying on.I dnt understand why you are waiting.. It wud be better to be upfront with your wife about her behaviour. This way you can decide to part in a better way.. U can use the proofs of cheating to get the custody of your daughter and give her a nice life. Please think of your daughter... !!
2006-08-29 22:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by PC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Print out everything you find on her and keep it in a safe place. It will hold up in court. And leave her before she leaves you. She obviously is going to leave eventually and take as much of your money as possible. In the meantime, open an account with just your name in it and put money into it so she can't get to it.
2006-08-30 00:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start keeping your paycheck. Don't let her have any more money. Start putting the money aside and if you can, leave her. You need to divorce so you can still get half of the properties.
2006-08-30 04:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to court and get your fair share, she wants out and I would let her go but i would make sure that I got half of the property in the process.
2006-08-29 22:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jim C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront him approximately it! positioned your foot down and insist solutions you're his spouse and he owes that to you. optimistically you may smell and tell the version in his lies and truths. are you able to forgive if he's interior the incorrect? Can he forgive you while you're interior the incorrect? terrific of success. you are the superb determination maker of your existence That "some chick from city" assertion is fairly like that "they are in basic terms my chum or in basic terms a pal" assertion that folk use so as that they gained't get caught. Me I say he slept together with her. Sorry :( edit Oh no that during one day element is a substantial sign! No shape worker somewhat works at evening except they are on a good time shrink. I doubt that small city has it interior the buget to have them artwork in one day. i'm sorry yet I worry adultery surpassed off. terrific element to do is flow with you intestine feeling. i think God gave it to us for a reason. that's perfect distinctive the time like ninety 5 p.c. of the time. additionally get those telephone information as data And in remaining although if he leaves you i wish you're in comparison to those women persons who act like they'd't flow on with no guy. I see it like this you became into fantastic with him and you became into fantastic previously you met him. positioned it like that.
2016-12-17 19:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by bunton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? You were cheated, and are still being cheated every day you stick around. Get a lawyer and get her out of your life, before she takes you for a ride.
2006-08-30 00:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you say you have proof then confront her. talk to her ...at least you'll know the true reason. You have the right know and should be given a fair chance to explain if she thinks otherwise.
2006-08-29 22:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sam1969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what is going on? i think if she has no answer for you then you should leave.go to court and get what is yours. i don't know how old your daughter is but I'm sure she will understand when she finds out what mums been up to
2006-08-30 01:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋