how do you feel about yourself?

Question

when you see people who seem totally confident about the way they look etc, did they have to learn to be like that or does it come naturally!
i always remember as a teen always looking to all my friends and thinking how much prettier,confident and popular they were, does everyone get like that?
Even now it doesn't take much for me to feel inferior to everyone- can you learn to be confident?

Answer 1

Just because they appear confident on the outside doesn't mean to say they are feeling the same on the inside, some people are just very good at putting themselves across as confident and others just crumble with nerves, smile more, people like that and just a smile back can boost your confidence, stand up straight with your shoulders back, don't slouch it makes people look bored and unapproachable, one of the best things for anyone to do for their confidence is to stop judging themselves so much, its a downhill slope to feeling inferior, you are just as good as the next person and should never feel inferior to anyone no matter who they are, smile, put your shoulders back, put a bounce in your step and people will notice just how confident you are too.

Answer 2

You can learn to be confident I think, looking confident is about the way you handle yourself; head up, walk tall etc, and apparently true confidence can follow. Most people have some situations where they are nervous and unsure, new social situations, new jobs, etc. I feel very confident sometimes and at othertimes I feel like I'm completely hopeless, I think it's quite natural. Good luck, and try not to be too hard on yourslef.

Answer 3

Fake it 'til you make it!
Sometimes you can give the appearence of Confidence, even when you feel like a fool.
Confidence is learned. You have been given some great advice. Just "act" confident while you work on these things, soon it will become natural:)

Answer 4

YES you need to look at yourself in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you are beutiful. Keep telling yourself you are beutiful and you will be. You can learn confidence just like i have, i have always hated the way i look, but i thought "who cares what other people think of me, i am me and that cant be changed so you may as well be happy with yourself" I dont beileve i am the most beautiful peron in the world but i do now feel happier about myself and am alot more confidence. Everyone is beutiful in their own ways! everyone has something about them that is different to everyone else. That is what makes us who we are.
Good Luck the confidence will come sooner then you think!

Answer 5

The first step is for you to accept yourself the way you are. There are some things we can't change about ourselves, so we must learn to accept it.
Next, we must focus on our personalities. Be the type of person you'd like your friends to like.
Third, stop comparing yourself to others. You are either looking for reasons to make them better than you, or reasons to think you are better than them. You should do neither. You should look at them as a friend, no better, no worse.
Finally, think positive thoughts. Read "The Power Of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale. It'll make you more confident in yourself.

Answer 6

Some ppl are born with it. Then some become so by being in a loving environment as a kid, where your elders are self-confident.
Now what about ppl who miss both these factors ?
I was one like that, where I felt lots of inferiority and lack of self-confidence.
However, I was able to dissolve all - or at least most of it- by not listening to other ppl's wishes as well as doing lots of self-inquiry.
This was a long process.
But if you are religious and believe god, you can pray to be what it is you wish for.
If you are not, you can do so by using affirmations/self-suggestions, visualizations/ imagery.
If you want to know any more resources, just feel free to email me.
Wish you luck

Answer 7

yes i think u can! Wheneva I feel low I like 2 go 4 a walk, taking paper & pen with me. I list all of the tihngs that make me feel bad bout myself/mylife. (this helps me sort out the crap from the stuff thats important)
its all bout being able 2 xpress urself! if this doesnt work try screaming, dancing, painting, swearing, get in touch with urself!

then when things calm down 4 u, work out the solutions 2 making things better! yes I think u can learn how 2 b confident but it needs 2 come from u!

XxX good luck in finding urself XxX

Answer 8

Stop being so competitive. You are not trying to be confident like those other people, you are trying to be better than them. Then you will find it much easier to forgive your own mistakes.

Answer 9

when your walking down the street and somebody is walking toward you, look them right in the eye if you make them look down you've scored a victory