2006-08-29 22:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Throughout the history of mankind, we as a world culture have made love out to be mysterious, complex, difficult, and undefinable. It’s the subject of endless poems and literary works. There is an enormous amount of material available out there about love, a lot of it contradictory.
We’ve been given the impression that to define love is near to impossible. Maybe there’s a fear that if we define it, it would somehow be less powerful...less impactful...less exhilarating. Maybe we like the mystery of it. But is it really that complicated? Perhaps the complications surrounding love come from all “stuff” we add on to this powerful emotion. Lets drop all the baggage surrounding relationships and define what it is we are experiencing in the moment of love.
Basic Components of Love
What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love...
Love is Accepting.
Acceptance is labeling someone as "okay" and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is call unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love evaporates.
Love is Appreciating.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. Its when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are "in love" with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.
Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.
How Do We Express Love?
We don’t always express our love. Love is a feeling and the expression of that feeling is separate. It’s an action. There’s a practical reason we don’t always express our love for another. It’s an issue of TIME. We only have 24 hours in a day (if you make it up that way). If the expression of love was a core ingredient to love, we would have to be stingy with who we loved, because there simply wouldn’t be enough time to demonstrate our love for everyone! If you see the distinction between the feeling and the expression, you can then love endless numbers of people.
Attention
Love expressed is when you give your attention, your time, your focus to someone. Webster defines attention as “the giving of one’s mind to something."
There are many ways in which we give our attention to another. We use our five senses. Our ears to listen. Being completely present with the one who is speaking. Our eyes, watching another, undivided attention. Tasting/smelling? (I’ll let you figure that one out). Touching, giving a hug, holding a hand, a caress, or sexual expression. How you express your love depends on the type of relationship.
2006-08-29 22:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LoVe!!!! their are many kinds of LoVe
lOvE can make u smile, laugh, cry, and hurt u can do everything about LoVe.
“The experience of love is the same, what changes are our preferences.”
“When you look at love, you're looking into the face of appreciation.”
“Love is the only rational act.”
“The pain associated with relationships has more to do with fear, than love.”
Red Flag Thoughts:
“You are my life. I can't live without you.”
“Personal unhappiness
is the greatest contributor
to relationship problems.”
"You hurt me, now I am going to hurt you."
You felt hurt by something your lover said or did. You want them to feel the same pain back so you do or say something that you're sure will push a button.
You had hoped that if you got angry, they'd see how much it means to you and will stop doing what you don't want them to do. You’re simply saying, “If you continue to behave in this way, you're going to have to experience my wrath.” You had unknowingly hoped that your anger and hostility would be an effective deterrent. But as it turns out, they push back and become angry themselves. Even if the person is willing to change, they don't want to be shoved, manipulated and condemned into changing. Their reaction is to fight back. It's a lose-lose situation.
2006-08-30 06:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by nEeLaM zAfaR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is being who you really are with the only one who understands and can share your life with
Love is being happy and seeing life beautifull every where around
Love is forgiving and forgetting all what has happened before
Love is sharing
Love is caring
Love is being strong to support your lover
Love is being weak infront of your lover without losing yourself
Love is acting free with your lover 'cause he's yourself
Love is simply Love
Love is the truth through lies
THIS IS LOVE
2006-08-30 05:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, This is what love is to me. Love is giving birth to my first daughter.Love is being with my family.Love is trust.Love is having someone who can make you laugh.Love is finding your true soulmate.Love is the gift of giving and a helping hand.Love is playing games with my grandson.Love is watching my daughter take her first steps.Love is giving birth to my second daughter.Love is being honest.Love is caring. Love is having a 50-50 open relationship with your soulmate.Love is giving you life for a loved one.
This is what love means to me.
Clowmy
2006-08-30 05:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't explain love.... you can try.... but if your in love then no words sound good enough.... using words to decipher love would only bring you as close as the shadow of something much greater than anything ever imagined
2006-08-30 05:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something that cant be explained. alll i know is that its an emotion that cant be stoppped or controlled and is something really special. One thing is that it can some times be GREAT but in the end it most probly will leave u BROKEN HEARTED.
Good question
2006-08-30 05:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by EmmY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a question my current wife and i have asked each other we are both from previous marriages....and we think we have finally meet our sole mate. But i think my 12 son sumed it up best when he said......Love is when you trust your partner and all your emotions are aimed at the one person. He thinks my current wife is the best step mum ever.....and he even thinks this is strange cause in quote "kid world they are suppose to be evil" unqote.
2006-08-30 06:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Fiji_bound2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not wanting to ever be away from the one you love no matter how annoying they can be!
2006-08-30 16:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by vance71975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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A strong positive emotion of regard and affection
2006-08-30 05:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by mallimalar_2000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
slow poision
2006-08-30 09:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Saahil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋