is it because they just took the previous relationship lightly and never really took it seriously?
2006-08-29 21:21:51 · 17 answers · asked by Inquirer 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
We can move quickly their the gamet of emotions and reduce everything to sex almost instantly...
In my experience girls will focus on the love and emptiness that love lost leaves brings, and this is harder to leave behind...
if men are just thinking about re-bounding into bed with someone else and not about the love that's lost and whether we will find it again: well, it is a simpler thing to get your heads around...
In my experience, I have started missing ex's sometimes 6 months or sometimes longer after the breakup; the sluttiness after a while makes me realise what emptiness follows...
2006-08-29 21:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may seem easier for men to move on after the breakup because they don't show as much pain as you feel.
I know that I was upset and found it hard to move on after a breakup with a girl I thought was a psychotic and hated being around. We were together for 2.5 years. I didn't want to be with her, but losing the 18 hours a day we spent together as she clung to me actually hurt pretty bad.
Anyway, back to the point, I think its a lot more socially acceptable for a girl to be visibly emotional. A guy will feel more obligated to move on and feel the empty space without showing any weakness. It may also be the case that some men are simply a lot more emotionally shallow than women. They may not be able to become as attached and therefore will not find it as difficult to detach.
It could be these two possibilities or a variety of things. I hope maybe this helps you understand my perspective as a guy.
2006-08-29 21:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't. They commit suicide four times more often than women after a breakup, but that can be lessened if they form another attachment to a woman. This is particularly evident in widowers. who have an average life span of just two years, compared to 20 years for a widow, after losing their spouse. Men who begin stalking their ex, or becomes abusive, when they didn't have a history of it, is also a sign that they are severely depressed, but turn it outward instead of inward.
Don't think what they are doing means anything other than they are trying to find another female to lean on, and yes, that is one of the jobs of women. Women make up half the emotional makeup of men, which is why they (men) are suppose to be married. Single men have 20-year shorter life spans. There's no difference in women, married or single, you do the same. We need yo a lot more than you need us. Unfortunately, the current trend of not settling down is costing us as a society. There are less male children being born, and the men are dying is ever greater numbers from otherwise curable illnesses, from on the job injuries, from crime, AND from suicides.
2006-08-29 21:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men take FOREVER to get over a relationship. Even if they enter another relationship. They brood about every previous relationship... I've had at least 4 boyfriends and 1 ex that kept bringing up the past.
Women may take longer to enter into another relationship, but when we do, I think we start "fresher" than men do.
2006-08-30 03:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We like to pretend that the break up of a relationship doesn't effect us so much so well try to move on too fast - where as women focus too much on the effect of the break up and take too much time. See: Abigail Trafford's "Crazy Time" on the subject.
2006-08-29 22:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I always thought it was easier for women. I thought they'll be getting passes and offers and all. And here we are. Getting rejections by the dozen. It's already hard enough going out to somebody and asking out.
2006-08-29 21:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetlemonman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who loves the most in a relationship is the one least in charge of it.
2006-08-30 00:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because the prospect of getting laid is out the door in most girls minds once they get upset enough to break it off with a guy.
2006-08-29 21:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by crazygreeniis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but I know from experience that they are not always that way...had a boyfriend once who pulled the crying and telling me he'd kill himself bit...and we were 15 at the time!
2006-08-29 21:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Luveniar♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a guy who has not moved on from his past relationship!
so, i guess, it's not that easy for men to move on after a breakup!
i dunno, but maybe they're hiding what they really feel!
out comes the brave!
2006-08-29 21:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by hualabakanube 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋