We've been dating for 2 years (1 year long distance but he visits me a week every month - mind you i stay in australia and he in asia). Lately he's been approaching the subject of me moving there to be with him and settling down. Im open to the idea but that would mean leaving my family here. Any suggestions?
2006-08-29 20:45:46 · 19 answers · asked by lubbiez_7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okie, a bit more information, we lived with each other for a year (so i know his habits and such), i told him to take the better job he was offered overseas when i decided I wanted to further my studies and we manage our relationship via internet, video calls and such.
2006-08-29 21:56:27 · update #1
Will it be a long term thing if u move in with him? I guess if u r going there for long, explain to your family abt it.. He's afterall, your bf. Not exactly ur hubby. Are u sure u r going to be like that for the rest of ur life? Maybe u can talk to both ur hubby and family. If u really wana be with him and wana move in with him, promise your family that u r not breaking any ties with them. U must caome back regularly to visit your family.. with your bf if he's free(he shld). Get married if both of u are ready, your family will understand. A wife always follow her hubby to anywhere...
Take care
2006-08-29 20:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by monokye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you have not spok about your occupation.Again you are under dating means your own family is geting ready. The parantine famly you are talking has to be end at one point of time.If you want to take care of the parents that is possible any where in world.Particularly in oldage is equal tochild hood. If you have some other responsibilities that even you can do from any where,it is not a problem,both of you must discuss it you will get the way out.Do remember problems are to be solved. But your love life must not be suffer .This is the very basis of our society. All the best for you.start your jorny GOD is with you
2006-08-30 04:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by prasad d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I tell you what. Do you really love this guy? Are you absolutely convinced that he is the one you want to spend your entire life with?
If you are looking for answers to these questions, just ask yourself, how much do u miss him when he is not around? Can you feel him and feel connected to him even when he is not with you?
If the answer is 'Yes'!! Then GO!
A few years down the line, you would be leaving family anyways. Thinking about remaining close to your family and settling with someone whom you would not love over the person you love is not a good idea.
If he is the ONE, boundaries (and oceans :) ) will not matter.
Best of Luck!
2006-08-30 03:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Akshat S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe think about it seriously, spending a week in a month is nt like living with them, anyone can be on their best behavior for a week. No dont do it, you are risking so much on your behalf. If he is serious then he should live with you for a while until you are certain. Or take a vacation, move in with him for more than 60 day and see how you feel.
Please take this seriously.
Good Luck
2006-08-30 03:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by WICCA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring him to let your parents have a look at him and let them have a simple chat with him.
if he agrees to see your parents, then things seem ok. but if there are any gatherings example a birthday party in your home in australia, ask him along and soon, you may be able to decide if you want to settle down with him in his home in asia. but don't decide too soon or early because it is a lifetime for you.
mercury of love
2006-08-30 08:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say if you love him enough and think that you can be happy that far away from your Family, then go for it.
I do have a question for you though....why can't he move to Australia with you?
2006-08-30 03:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by nkkidw040602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids then for God's sake leave them and be with him. If you love him then go for it you don't just go out with him for a year and not do anything about it but if you have kid's then dont and u gotta make him live with you somehow
2006-08-30 04:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you decide which is more important to you, , ,your family or your lover, this is the complexity betwwn long-distance relationships. . .here's something though, your relationship may end, but your family will always be by your side
2006-08-30 03:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to know what you should do! No one can tell you what you feel inside. If you love this person and want to make a life with them, what is it going to take? Ask yourself that.
2006-08-30 03:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should sit down and talk it out with your family moving away is always hard when all your family is in the same place
2006-08-30 03:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by lenora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋