i know a couple where the woman cheated on her boyfriend,he forgave her and they carried on with there lives,then a year and a half later he cheated on her while out on a night out,she never found out,would you forgive your partner if they cheated?
2006-08-29 20:24:31 · 57 answers · asked by ♥Scottish♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ♥Fairy♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how do u know he cheated on her
2006-08-30 01:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by tayna l 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard one i used to think no you can never forgive anyone for cheating, and still kinda do, but have a friends whos boyf cheated on her in the beginning of their realtionship (because he thought she was cheating) she wasnt, but he didnt tell her until a long time after because he knew he had made a mistake at the time and when he told her she found it in her heart to forgive him. they are fine now(to cut a long story short), im not saying that cheating is ok and its right, but i think if you are to forgive someone, like my friend did, you cannot hold it against them, it is your choice to stay with them or not, and if you choose to then you need to know you are going to be able to get through it together and be able to talk about it and not use it. if you get me
and if you decide to leave and cut all ties that is up to you as well
i think the important thing is that it is the person whos been cheated on decision - no one elses
2006-08-29 21:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i have done. My husband and I were going through a very bad patch and he did cheat on me. There was lots of reasons why and a lot more to the story but I would be here all day and bore the pants off you. He only slept with her after we split up though, but it still hurt like hell. It took me a long time to get over it, and I actually collapsed at one point and was rushed to hospital! but we had been together for a long time and I didn't want to give it all up for one stupid mistake, I could see he was sorry. My husband doesn't ever cry, but he cried when I confronted him, so I know he felt like s**t because of what he had done. I fell out of love with him for a little while, but three years on we are stronger than ever and even have a beautiful 6 month old little boy, and we are celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary on Friday. I do trust him again now, but sometimes if I am watching TV and somebody is having an affair, the pain dos come back for a split second, but then goes again.
2006-08-29 20:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A while ago I believed that cheating can't be forgiven and it shouldn't. Now I think it depends on the circumstances. It's an easy way to get over being cheated on by doing the same, and fare. In other cases, it still depends on the cirsumstances. If it's a lifestyle then no bloody way ... but people do make mistakes. what's the person's worth is the question.
2006-08-29 20:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mr Conker,
I think everyone cheats and lies and misleads themselves and others in life.
We focus on cheating on partners because of the "love" and trust aspects. But would we really be surprised? Does anyone think that their partner never think about others?
Some people are faithful, others are not so strong. These others can be broken down into those who just don't care and those who try and don't make it.
I think some people are ok with forgiving and others are not ok with forgiving.
2006-08-29 21:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by David R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. Caught him cheat once and forgave but that was the end of it. If I do not forgive it means I carry it with me and its a burden on me but when I forgive...thats his problem and I live my life with no feelings of how could he do that to me?
You can forgive but don't let them back into your life.
2006-08-30 00:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by loveydovey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
There is never a reason to cheat .. ever. You want someone else? You have the decency to end with your partner .. it doesnt matter if a relationship breaks down etc .. by cheating you lower yourself and your partner will always resent you .. if they dont and they forgive you then basically they are too good for you anyway.
2006-08-29 20:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on whether it is a compulsive behaviour on part of one partner to cheat or if it was a one time impulsive act which is being genuinely regretted.
seems like a really shallow relationship if one were to break up just because your partner cheated if he/she sincerely regrets it.
compulsive cheating definitely indicates lack of love and respect for the other person and the cheating partner should be thrown out.
2006-08-29 20:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive, but like your friend, I get a freebie next time, lol.
If it's a chronic-all-the-time-cheating, then no, obviously the relationship is too bad to fix.
All depends on why he/she cheated and how bad it was and whether you can deal with it later thinking about it.
2006-08-29 20:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ ms. @ ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey ya!
I don't understand when someone woman or man(it doesn't really matter!) cheated!
How can i live with a man who don't like me enough and how can i trust him?
They say that the man is a teapot and the woman is a cup.
So,around the man are many cups and he must fill them and around the woman are many teapots and she is alone and pick just one man (teapot) for all life!
2006-08-29 20:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgave my husband his 'flings' ( I had 2 children under 2 yrs who didn't sleep and had gone off sex. so he felt he was justified!)
But I found it harder to forgive him for telling me to assuage his own guilt and to blame me!!... I need never have known
But I know he would never forgive me if he found out I was unfaithful. May be the difference is that women tend to become more emotionally involved.... for a lot of men it is just sex.
2006-08-29 23:37:40 · answer #11 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋