My husband recently left my kids and I to live with another woman. Although he is still paying the bills, he is hardly around. We have three children two of which he and I share, and the third is with another woman. I have raised her since she was three months old and she is now almost eleven. Is this considered child abandonment? Please help. What should I do?
2006-08-29 20:04:53 · 19 answers · asked by RollMyDice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
According to Protection Laws
Abandonment occurs when the caregiver responsible for the child's welfare, while being able, makes no provision for the child's support and makes no effort to communicate with the child.
He is commiting adultery though and that could help in the divorce.
2006-08-29 20:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time anyone leaves the other for a period of time it is considered abandonment, that is if there is no contact whatsoever.
First I would find out why he left you for another woman. Talk about it calmly if you can. I think its horrid that he did that ...but both sexes do it and can somehow work it out after wards. I don't know if you want to do that. I wouldn't! Once a cheater...always a cheater! Sorry, it's been proven over and over.
He is not around because he is with her. He pays your bills because he probably doesn't want you to divorce him. He would probably wind up paying more than just the bills.
2006-08-29 20:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is living with another woman then you shouldnt want any thing to happen due to the fact that he will be taking the kids and they'll be going to the other woman's house. this could and most likely will at some point happen if they stay together but while its new try to keep your kids out of his and hers relationship so the kids dont get attached and loose her...........on the issue of your step daughter shame on you if you are trying to make her less important then yoiur other two kids and i dont think this was your intent but your puting her in a separate catogory then your natural kids.......she was 3 months when you were lucky enough to have her come into your life please dont use her as your pawn to get back at him.........she should be as loved as the others......i have a step daughter and it was hard at first but after 7 years she is 98% mine and she just told her dr. i am the only real mom she has ever had and she has always gone to visit her real mom.......this made me happy due to the fact that i know she does love me and see what she means in my life but i cried because this made me so sad that my daughter just never even had a chance to have what was once thought to be our right a mom to love her and care for her........it sounds like you maybe this childs only mom to so be proud and dont react to his bad behavior using her because its easy.....i hear people all the time say parenting is the hardest job but i have news for them being a step parent is 10x's harder
2006-08-29 22:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by driveme20002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still paying The bills so its not abandonment in a purely legal sense. It sounds more like he abandoned you.
2006-08-29 21:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally speaking no. To be child abandonment, there has to be no contact, no support, or anything else for 30 days.
2006-08-30 01:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by jacemo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no leaving the kids in the car with the windows rolled up is child abandonment
2006-08-29 20:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by steve m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he is helping financially....the courts wouldn't consider it as abandonment. But morally....what he is doing is wrong. Wrong to you and the children. I feel for you and wish you all the best. Good luck!
2006-08-29 20:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are still married.....and he is living with another woman....then yes, that's abandonment....you can get him on that...if he left of his own free will and you did not tell him to get out.
If you have changed the locks since he left though.....he may be able to fight it......he could say he wants to come back...but you have put him out and he had nowhere else to go.
2006-08-29 20:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Campbell Gramma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he is fulfilling his legal obligations it sounds like. We are bound by law to provide for childrens physical needs but not their emotional needs. It sounds like you need to get an attorney in order to make sure everything is in writing. I would be concerned about the child that is not biologically yours. If you want her to continue living with you, you definately need to persue legal advice. Sorry for your misfortune. Good lucky with your future.
2006-08-29 20:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider this child yours as you and her have bonded together over her devloping years. it would be psycological abandonment from the childs point of view and she would no longer be mentally stable if you left her. bite the bullet and rase her through her teenage years. Think of the child and how she will be if you left her now !
2006-08-29 20:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Agent Orange Peel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋