would you forgive or expect to be forgiven?

Question

if you/ your partner had an affair? Or a one night stand with someone they knew? or a one night stand with a stranger? Or a snog? Or text sex?

Answer 1

I would forgive, but my hubby wouldn't. I think that sex is sex, and what's real is the person you've pledged your heart and soul to... But my hubby is of the till death do us part variety, so I am true to him as he his true to me. Sad to say, but I love variety and my man is a one woman type. So I wouldn't hold myself to one standard, and my spouse to another. Any form of physical sexual gratification with anyone but your partner is out of bounds.

Answer 2

If my partner had an affair, i would be able to forgive them, we're only human and everyone makes mistakes. If you truely love them you can look past their mistakes and be able to forgive them, and move on in your relationship, give them another chance. If i were to have an affair i would not expect to be forgiven, i am an understanding person and could forgive if it was my partner but if i had an affair i wouldn't be able to bear the pain caused and wouldn't even expect to be forgiven. Good question.

Answer 3

I would forgive an affair (only once). I would have a more difficult time forgiving an one night stands - especially one with a stranger!
I do not know what snog is - and text sex sounds kind of weird.

Answer 4

How can you build a relationship on quicksand? Trust is the strongest part of the bond between two people. I guess I could forgive,but I would be so miserable cause I wouldn't do it to him. I realize that we are human. If you are not married then this is different and not such a problem...I would move on,cause it's gonna happen again. But if you are married then I think serious counseling is in order. It's gonna cause a lot of heart ache no matter what,but like I said you can recover faster if it is a relationship and not a marriage.

Answer 5

It depends on the type of person who has to do the forgiving.
I was faithfull so will never forgive my ex for being unfaithfull.
A snog is too personal, so no, but text sex if you never meet the other party for real sex is the same as watching porn,so I don't have an issue with that.
It's up to you to decide what you want...

Answer 6

First off, Im completely against any sort of cheating, wether it be sexual, or just going to the movies, or secret friendships. I would NOT forgive...to me that is something that i would not put up with under any circumstances. that act shows no respect for the relationship, no care for eachother, and definetly is NOT love. if you love someone, you dont even want to think about being with someone else, because you dont want anyone else. so unforgivable. i would not expect to be forgiven because i would not forgive someone, at all times i want to be treated how i would treat someone. there is nothing that makes it okay to cheat or have anythin like that going on. i would never do something like that, but no i would not forgive and i would not expect to be forgiven.

Answer 7

Wouldnt forgive or expect to be forgiven (not relevant as I wouldnt do it).

A relationship is a contract of commitment between the two of you .. if you break it .. well you are lower than low.

if you need to leave your partner then do it .. cheating is just the cowards way .. and totally disrespectful to the party who is cheated on.

There is too much 'excuse' used these days .. people should get back to respecting each other.

Answer 8

I would both forgive and also expect to be forgiven.

However, i would really feel very hurt if this happened to me. I would probably take some time alone and go for spiritual direction.

Answer 9

So many scenarios in this question... it really depends on why he did it. I'll ask him why and if he's honest and really apologetic and repentant, maybe i'll forgive him... but only if the affair was a physical one. Emotional affairs, I don't think i'd be too forgiving of that.

Answer 10

I am a firm believer that we are all human and susceptible to mistakes. However, for me the first time would be forgiven and I would tell my spouse that because I feel once is a mistake it is put in the past... everyone should learn by mistakes. Then I would say that if it EVER happend again I don't concider it a mistake and it WILL NOT be forgiven and if you play you pay...