What should i do?

Question

Okay so i have 5 rings, 2 braclets, 3 pairs of ear-rings & a diamond necklace missing. I can honestly say i have looked everywhere in my home for them. The last time i saw them i had went to Disney World and at the motel i know i packed them in a green overnight bag i use. I have tore my house inside out trying to find the stuff. The sad thing is one of the rings was my grandmas wedding band that she left me when she died. I'm most hurt at this. I don't want to have to believe that someone stole them from my bedroom. I only have had close friends and family in my home. I guess my question is i kind of don't want to believe the stuff is gone because if it is i know i was ripped off but do you think it is possible to trust someone fully and for them to steal from you?

I feel bad but i suspect my sisters boyfriend i don't know why but he just gives me strange vibes and i don't want to make anyone mad because i don't accuse people of things. It is just that i've looked for all of it for over a month and i still am having no luck. My friend told me to look in the pawn shops in town that if someone did find it they may have pawned it. I never reported it missing..

And are you completely sure that you had them when you went to leave the hotel.You know sometimes the room service/house keeping staff in some hotels are notorious for stealing from the guests.



Yep, I took it most of it off because i had a 10 hour drive home and i wanted to be comfortable.

It's not advisable to bring many jewelry out esp. on tour. It's tempting for people to steal.


I had it packed in the bag and noone knew it was in there except my parents, bf, sister and her bf.
The bag was in my closet and not out in the open.

report the loss to the hotel.
No because i was packing the bag and left right after i put the stuff in it so i know it wasen't the motels fault. I never left the bag alone until i got home and i put it in my closet i usually keep my stuff in my dresser safe but i forgot about it until my mom asked me where grandmas ring was.

Have you told your parents? Yes, My mom is thinking it had to be stolen from my bedroom.

Do any of your friends or family have drug issues? No i don't think any of them do drugs the only one i know who does is my sisters b.f. he smokes pot.

Answer 1

I have seen times when someone is so certain they weren't the one to misplace jewelry they were certain someone stole it. Years later the jewelry turned up, and the person who owned it then remembered having hidden it somewhere or otherwise misplaced it. So for now, don't be 100% sure someone stole it.

In answer to your question, though: Yes. It is entirely possible to trust someone and for them to steal from you. Usually, it wouldn't be the older people in your life if you really know them and really know they wouldn't steal (although it could be, I guess). Usually, young people who don't realize how serious it is may steal jewelry. People who use drugs may steal it for money. Young children may steal it because it catches their eye.

Hotels are known for having things stolen from them, and so are bags that get checked and looked through when you travel by plane. If you don't know for sure please be careful not to start suspecting a possibly innocent person.

I hate to say it, but I think you could have lost the stuff when you thought you put it in the bag or if the bag could have been gone through by baggage checkers (or even someone who got into the room while you may have run out for a quick errand and left the bag there).

Sorry that you've lost this stuff. Who knows, maybe it will turn up.

Answer 2

It's not advisable to bring many jewelry out esp. on tour. It's tempting for people to steal.

It's sad to lose things. But at least you try your best to recover them, if you can. It's not that you don't care. You do care & treasure them.

1. Search the likely places
2. Make it known to the management of the motel you're staying - Ask them to assist you.
3. Make it known to your family members (& friends) who stay with you at home & during the disney trip - Ask them to assist you - If you suspect they steal, give them a benefit of doubt - Just ask them to help you find. If they own up, good.
4. Worry less - The trip is supposed to make you happy
5. Be cool - Go relax first - A fresh mind is better for thinking & searching stuff. You may just be looking for a green overnight bag. And the bag is hidden or misplaced. Your stuff could already be taken out of the bag & placed elsewhere.
6. Be more cautious next time, protect your stuff & not take things for granted. Don't assume your things will be taken care of, esp. things that meant alot to you - All the more, you should take care of them. If not, put them in a safe secure place. Better be safe than sorry.

Answer 3

Yes a theif is a theif no matter if its a family memeber or a friend. Sometimes its a sickness and that person will need to seek help . And sometimes help does not work. You might have to bring up the things that went missing to your friends and family. Make sure you are one on one with each person so if one of them confess it can stay between the 2 of you. If you know these people pretty well then you might beable to tell if athat person is guilty.
I hope you get your things back. And remember the person that took the things may have a sickness. Offer them help and support.

Answer 4

I would trust my family but not my friends.Turns
out one of my sisters friends who I thought was the sweetest girl had kleptomania.She would
steal anything.But you never would have guessed it was her because she was so sweet.
And are you completely sure that you had them when you went to leave the hotel.You know sometimes the room service/house keeping staff in some hotels are notorious for stealing from the guests.

Answer 5

I think you have kept the bag somewhere and now you don't remember..Sometimes it happens...if u remember that the bag was in ur House then 90 % chance is that somebody has stolen that bag from you......there are some cases like yours....Good friends and family members sometimes do the same mistake....because some people have such bad habits but we cant judge them...and we cant believe that

Answer 6

report the loss to the hotel. Have you told your parents?

Do any of your friends or family have drug issues? They might be the one who took them.

This crap happens. Next time don't take anything valuable unless you wear it in your sleep. And at home a box in a well hidden place. Yet I have learned that druggies have a nose to smell out jewlery and cash. Sad but true

Answer 7

THIS IS A THREE PART ANSWER ; 1 ONE OF THE RINGS WAS YOUR GRANDMA'S WEDDING BAND [ CLOSE FRIENDS & FAMILY ] ANY OF YOUR RELATIVES SHOW ANY DISAPPROVAL ABOUT YOU GETTING THE RING IN THE FRIST PLACE. 2 YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY SHOW ANY SIGNS INTRESTS IN YOUR JEWLERY MORE THAN YOU THINK THEY SHOULD HAVE , LIKE ASKING QUESTIONS , WHAT'S IT'S WORTH ECT. DO YOU KEEP THEM LOCKED UP WHEN YOU ARE NOT HOME . 3 IS JUST POSSIBLE YOU THOUGHT YOU PACK THEM UP AT THE MOTEL AND FORGOT TO DO SO ,DID YOU TRY CONTACTING THE MOTEL TOO SEE IF THEY FOUND YOUR MISSING JEWLERY.

Answer 8

It is possible, but of course you can't just go around accusing your friends and relatives. Just quietly observe them for a few days if there are changes in their behavior and attitude. If everything is unchanged then you should get that suspicion out of your mind. I hope you find the stuffs in the end especially your grandma's wedding band.

Answer 9

Friends are never friends these days..i've seen people get decieved so many times from friends..that i wouldn't trust them at all. I think it's your friends. If i were you..i would make a list of every friend you have had at your house since they went missing. And make up some bullshit like.."Hey can i come over and watch a movie with you" And then try to get them occupied so you can search their rooms..

Answer 10

Oh yes, and its sad too. I have had wonderful beautiful things and they disappeared when a great friend of mine & her sister came to visit. I didn't want to believe it, until I went to the Pawn shops,and found my things. To say the least, and after much tears, I no longer have this friend in my home. ITs sad, but it happens, just be careful of your friends.