Do Career Women make better wives and mothers?

Question

A male writer has caused controversy by saying that "men should not marry career women". He claims they will not be happy to stay at home and raise children. That their higher salary will create disharmony and the marriage will not last. He says that men will be happier when married to unambitious wives who are happy to stay at homeand raise the children. Do you agree or diasgree?.

Answer 1

If you are a weak man with lots of self-inhibitions, then a career woman is not for you: her success will always bring you down and lower the levels of your self worth. But if you are not a total loser, of course you'd take a successful wife, who will motivate you even more. The balance here is important: one thing is for sure - men still want somebody to meet them at home after a hard day's work, to rub their shoulders, to serve the dinner, and to surround them with love and attention. Career woman or not, you owe this to your man BUT only if half of the time he does this for you, too.

Answer 2

Hi.
For a woman to be a better wife or mother doesn't depend on the fact whether the woman works or not. Many men prefer their wives to be housewives as they are afraid that the latter won't be able to assume their responsibilities well. But that's not true. I personally think that if both husband and wife work, they will be able to achieve lots of success together in a short lapse of time. This will also help them in living a better life. But many orthodox person still hold the belief that women should not work that is they should stay at home to do the household chores, take care of the children and so on. But things are no longer the same as before. Nowadays most women prefer to be independent. And what's the use of studying if you don't intend to work in order to put into practice the things which you have learn during your studies. Many men have still not yet understand the fact that it's not solely the responsibility of the women to take care of the house and the children. They should be willing to help their wives. In this way no problem will arise and married life will be just great. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

In this modern society, dual income are very income for the comfort of a family. So marrying a career woman is good as she helps to bring home the bread & butter. She is better educated and she will also be able to educate the children. Both husband and wife can share the financial burden and both can play the role of decision making togehter.As the saying goes, two heads are better than one.So I dont agree that men should not marry career woman.

Answer 4

I believe it is harder to stay home and raise the children than it is to be a career woman. Women who think they can do both are very stressed out and something suffers somewhere along the line.

Some women however, and I applaud them are able to do both,BUT, most of the time they are forced to because some idiot man doesn't care enough to better himself for the family by making a better income or has left his family for some younger woman who hasn't ruined her body by giving birth to her husbands children of which she will love, hate and tolerate their behaviors until and even after they have left the nest....and she's more than happy to see them succeed in their own lives, but it takes years and hopefully she has taught them the right things.

I do think that because men are supposed ( I say "supposed "because I think men really do want to) to take care of their wives and children until the very end. Women are very confused ( men are too) as to where their place is in society because women have wanted to feel like they are contributing to the household and JUST staying home and raising the children was not enough.....back then. In the women's rights era. Now however....Women are changing and realizing that they should stay home and not compromise the children for a career. And men should have enough balls to see to it that the wife and children are not sacrificed in the effort of achieving the goals of a happy family. Men shouldn't cheat on their wives as a result of her having to stay home and sometimes not looking so good because of it. A man should treat his wife like a queen because she is staying home. In turn she will take care of him...gladly in most cases. She is not only taking care of the children she is taking care of the man too. If a woman charged a man for all the things she does for him ....he probably couldn't afford her! So, it's best to treat the wife with respect and honor her for the sacrifices she is making for the husband and children. He will get rewarded in many ways if it is done sincerely and with honest true love in his heart.

Answer 5

I think the only men that agree with this comment are men that ARE intimidated, and will feel inferior-because not only will there be competition in the working world, but now he has to compete at home!

Men love to complain when a woman is too clingy and insecure,but if she was able to have a life, she would have other things to think about, instead of what her husband is doing.

If a woman is unable to fulfill her own dreams she will greatly resent her husband for holding them back. We only have one life to live. There's no guarantee that we can come back and do it again.

Now days you NEED two incomes to run a household. Since Woman can step up and have careers, Men need to step up and learn how to take care of their children!

Datburnit!

Answer 6

A good wife is a good wife because she knows how to care for her husband the way he wants and needs to be cared for. A good mother is a good mother because she tends to her childrens needs and disciplines them, shows interest and concern in what they do and so on. Now, my father is a minister and when my step mom began to work after 20 years and all the kids hit atleast 18 but one he flipped out on her. What the hell is up with men like that? They are NOT right about this! If a man loves his wife he would want her to love herself too and think she is more worthy than JUST staying at home changing shitty diapers and cooking.

Answer 7

I totally disagree! I do believe that it is "harder" for a women who enjoys working outside of the home to stay with the kids but not impossible. I disagree with the comment that "men will be happier with "unambitious wives who are happy to stay at home" I enjoy staying at home with my kids, "right now", but that does not make me unambitious! That makes me extremely talented. To be able to stay at home, take care of everyone, husband, kids, house, school work, house work, finances, etc. is definitely harder than putting in 8 hours sitting at a desk or what ever. I am sacrificing my time right now for my children and husband but once the youngest is ready for full time school then its back to work, as is for many women. He needs to do more research.

Answer 8

That writer's comment has placed these so-called unambitious women in a bad light. Poor advise. However, these career women know a lot especially when they happen to be teachers since they are well-equipped with the know-hows of raising kids. Most of these career women can also be devoted mothers. See Britney Spears, Nicole Kidman, etc.

Answer 9

I would agree, if the sentence had any qualifiers. If the sentence was "Men who are traditional types, have stable jobs, and want to raise children should not marry women who love their careers and value working mothers..."

I've known alot of guys (including my boyfriend) who place MUCH of their self esteems on their ability to provide for their partners. Obviously, any man who is like this and who dates a woman who does NOT value his efforts is really wasting his time and setting himself up for disappointment.

I don't consider this a sexist belief (hey, women often place MUCH of their self esteems on being "good friends" and self sacrifice in less financial ways!).... but I do not think that it is wise for someone to give such blanket advice (unless preaching in a fundamentalist church, or to a specific group).

I know that there are men out there who do NOT place so much of their self esteem on their ability to provide, who want kids, and would get VERY bored with a woman who was unambitious and "traditional".

To each their own, and hopefully this guy does not mislead too many women or men with those unspecific sentences.

Answer 10

Lots of insecure men say things like that. Insecure men should definitely take the advice and stay away from career women.

As for me--I wouldn't have it any other way. My wife is an R.N. with an advanced degree, and sometimes she's paid a bonus based on the office income. Several times her paychecks were larger than mine. We dealt with this difficult situation by going out on a date--she paid. Life is good.