2006-08-29 19:18:27 · 27 answers · asked by N O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No. It's the easy and cowardly way out of the situation. Rather than being direct by dealing with the situation (which is the fair, more mature thing to do), it really is quite manipulative, controlling and mean. Saying you will call (not you specifically, but people in general) when you know you won't is controlling and mean. Doing so means that only you have a say in the matter and have the upper hand or the power. In effect, you are robbing the other person of their right to voice their opinion and understand what they might have done to offend you in the first place. If you resort to these games that person will spend hours upon hours of their precious energy wondering what they have done wrong, which is simply unfair. Since you can't handle confrontation and fear what others may say to you, you choose these tactics.
The best policy is always honesty, provided that it is handled kindly. If your friendship is not working for you (or a love relationship) be direct about your feelings and communicate what you feel. This allows the other person to understand what they have done to offend or trouble you, defend their position if they need to and gives them room to learn from the experience, even if it hurts them. It may also open up the lines of communication to allow the situation to be resolved, or simply allow closure to be given when a friendship ends.
Remember, the shoe can always be placed on the other foot and someone could do the same thing to you. When you are in that situation - wondering what you did to offend someone to make them not call you - you will feel as hurt as they do when you have done it to them. So be kind and be fair, and treat others as you would like to be treated - with respect and honor.
2006-09-06 16:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say you're being given the run-around. It's a nasty thing for a so-called friend to do, but some people are really good at it.
Don't stress. Find some new people to hang with, and pretty soon the 'friend ' who is avoiding you will probably try to get together with you, then you can tell them you'll have to call them back later. Then don't.
You don't need friends like that anyway.
2006-08-30 02:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by thatwench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is still the best policy... better say it straight but in a polite manner. explain the reasons why you want to get rid of him/her. It wouldn't just help you but your friend as well so that he/she would know what's wrong with him/her so that he/she could change for the better.
2006-09-07 01:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by chubbychubz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really, You are just leaving it for later, so that for one doesnt make things easier for you and you leave the person wait for ever. Just explain that a lot of things are happening right now BUT im sure u r not talking about a true friend (or i hope so)
2006-09-05 16:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by FairyQueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to avoid one of your friends? if you are friends and you just want to be bothered, they should understand. wouldn't you understand if they did the same to you? always turn it around & see how you would take it if it were done to you...
2006-09-05 17:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you treat your friends in that way that mean your are not sincere to your friends bcoz there is nothing hidden between friends.
2006-09-07 01:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by mrs509eb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just barred her/his name/number from calling you.. then you won't received any of the calls and dun have to give any excuse to avoid them
2006-09-07 00:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by marg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a "best" way to avoid someone?
2006-09-04 21:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by sheryl m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the best way is caller id, and when they call don't answer.
When they email don't respond.
When they stop by and knock-- hide.
2006-08-30 02:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by d h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth
2006-08-30 02:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Giggles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋