Ok, problem!! Or is there a problem?:
This guy lives next door to me, and really likes me. We've been talking for the longest time and whatnot. And we're pretty good friends. But lately he WONT give up trying to kiss me or date me, or go on walks with me. He knows that my parents wont let me date and that they're really strict and I respect them. He was always so understanding and would lay off something, he's still understanding...but he's getting weird. He asked me to meet him tonight, it was dark and he wouldn't tell me why. He said he was sad and needed to talk. I told him I couldn't but he could call me. He didn't want to. Later he (online) asks me for a walk...I tell him I can't and say my mom wont let me...he gets offline just like that! It's kind of odd...he wasn't like this before. I know him, I mean our town consists of like 500 people....I know him and he's not a bad guy at all. But why does he do this, and get all weird when I tell him I want to just be friends and stuff?
2006-08-29 18:33:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be careful, he sounds like he is pressuring you and if he has no respect for your parents, then he is just going to get you into trouble.
That is not liking someone, that is obsession.
2006-08-29 18:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not saying how old you are, so I am assuming you are very young. My daughter is 14, and if this was happening to her, I would tell her to distance herself from this boy for a while. It sounds like he is trying to draw you in. I'm not saying this because I am a mother, I am saying this because I have watched this scenerio play out, and the ending is not good. If he cannot respect the fact that you want to obey your parents and not sneak out, he is not respecting you or your morals. Stand tight to what you feel is the right thing. Nothing good can come from meeting a boy at night and going against your parents. You may have been friends before, but right now he is not looking out for your best interest, and there has to be a reason. Be glad your parents love you enough to set boundries. You have plenty of time in your life to stress over boys. Right now just throw yourself into extra curricular activities, or spend more time with your female friends. He might be going through something right now, but he needs to deal with it on his own and get through it. Eventually if he is truely a friend, he will tell you. But it is not your job to fix him problems. This is a biggie. As females, we feel we need to take care of people, you need to ignore this impulse. If he won't tell you online or on the phone, then he must not be ready to talk about it. I promise if he is a true friend, he will come around, if not, he was up to no good.
2006-08-30 01:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by sillymom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing how old you are it is difficult to be sure but it sounds like the boy next door is growing up and wants to have sex. He does not mean to discomfort you but he is at the mercy of his newly discovered sexual drives. This is a difficult time for him. You should remain firm in your attitude. He will become more reasonable as he matures further.
2006-08-30 01:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not do it. In fact I'd stay far away from him. I had a similar sit with a guy a few years agao and he was bad news. Best thing is to put him on your iggy list.
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2006-08-30 01:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't the kind of guy you should be with. He isn't respecting you or your parents.
2006-08-30 01:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋