I'm very confused. For about a year now i have noticed that i am attracted to certain woman. The laid back kind of girl. It's not really a sexual attraction though it's more like a desire to kiss the girl. I know this sounds very weird and im trying my best to make sense so im sorry if im confusing anyone. It's kind of hard to explain. Does the desire to kiss girls mean that im a lesbian?
2006-08-29 18:21:41 · 15 answers · asked by Brandy U 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you had told your age, and you belong to the group of teenagers, i might say you are in the confusion stage...the one that i had experienced before! i had this girl bestfriend and i had wanted to kiss her too...more so was attracted to her. i know she wasn't the prettiest girl in campus but she jst had that charm that you would want to kiss her...i don't know why!!! it was a funny feeling, but i considered it as a natural feeling! perhaps, a part of being a female is also being bold to try things out of the norm...and i know it doesn't mean that im being bad myself...or wanted myself to be a lesbo!(anyways, i didn't kissed her!) ....but, you know what, it's really upto you to decide or to assess what you really are. we might have those personal desires within ourselves but it's all upto you to give in to it or jst to hide it...whatever makes you happy, go for it!!!! anyways, it would jst be a kiss, and girls like to be kisssed eh??? ayt??? goodluck!
2006-08-29 18:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by lyn_sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - it can mean that you don't base your attraction to people on their gender alone. It means that you base it on the individual - who that person is.
I noticed the same thing when I was about 16 and did end up dating a few women and fooling around with some as well. It was never all women - just those women that really attracted me for some reason. Why not is how I look at it? You can have so much fun with another woman - they know our bodies best and the few girls I have been with - I made some of the best memories of my life.
And - you would never regret kissing them regardless of what secual orientation category it may put you in. There is something so sensous about it - so different that kissing a man. It really is just such a turn on and I think that most women haev some kind of attraction inside sometimes for at least one woman they have come across but most don't admit it so it is great that you are in touch with that side of you and want to explore it.
Never limit yourself or your possible experiences to come - if you have a curiosity -- fulfill it - escpecially this one. I used to wonder why I felt this way - did I admire her? Did I want to be like her? Then, I just realized it was none of that and maybe all of that but also that I was attracted to her - plain and simple - a strong attraction. So now I have a bf for many years but I am still attracted to some women I see and moreso than some men and my bf knows this and laughs at me sometimes. So, I have called myself bi in the past and I guess I am. Lesbian is strictly women though and no men so if you like both - you would be bi as well.
:o) have fun!!
2006-08-29 20:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, it makes you bi-curious. If you actually have sex with another woman and find you want more including possibly a relationship while still being attracted to men, then you are probably bi. After a real relationship with another woman, if you find that you are no longer attracted to men, then most likely you are a lesbian.
So, relax. Right now, you are really just curious about something it's really normal to be curious about. Give yourself permission to explore a little. You'll figure out who is the real you.
2006-08-29 18:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Brandy U, I know exactly how you feel...I feel the same way. It doesn't sound weird. Wanting to kiss a girl with feelings for them doesn't make you a lesbian unless you have a long history of these feelings. You could just be curious...
2006-08-29 18:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u could be curious about the gay world or this chic has some very sexy lips. Maybe this is your opportunity window 4 your "lesbian experience" and she must be the one 4 u 2 be comfortable with. Only u will know, just be tru 2 yourself, don't worry about what the next person say.
2006-08-29 19:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tru 2 Myself 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. From what I understand everyone has some qualities that maybe considered to be gay by most. Its only human nature. Most won't admit to it. I sure wouldn't. But don't give into that, it's just a stage your going through. You were born a woman, be proud of that. You were born that way for a reason, now get out there and live up to your woman hood!
2006-08-29 20:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by discount wholesales 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're probably bi-curious or bi. Sounds like it's time to do some soul-searching to figure out what those attractions are. And no, it doesn't mean your definately les.
2006-08-30 06:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just need a good man to latch on to and I think that feeling of confusion will go away. God didn't intend for us to be gay or bi- sexual. He created us to be man and woman, together as one. Anyway, I hope I helped you with your confusion. God bless you ,and I hope you make the right decision.
2006-08-29 21:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is nothing like confused in this what does your mind say you do and when you are clear no need to ask this type of question forget the word lesbian.
2006-08-29 18:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could either mean you're a lesbian or curious about it.
2006-08-29 18:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋