Any advise?

Question

So there is this one girl in my school, Christie. I was best friends with her before. But a few days ago, my other friend, Kellie, sent me an e-mail that Christie said something bad about me. I usually never trust Kellie cause she is the popular girl in my school and she backstabs others, but she is good friends with Christie. I don't know what to do. I don't wanna ask Christie if it's true because I don't want her to think I'm a crybaby. Christie is also popular, but she is very nice and has lots of friends. I don't know who to trust. Any advise?

Answer 1

First of all....Is what she said important? If it is not...blow it off. Avoid drama. Don't trust sources. You have to hear it for yourself. If it is something important, talk to her. Say, " I am hearing rumors that you have said negative things about me. We are good friends. If you have a problem, I hope you are able to tell me about it." That way...you are not accusing. You don't want to accuse. It will just start an arguement. If she says no, say," I figured it was a whole bunch of B.S. anyway!" If she says yeah, then work it out. But remember what I said first. If it is not important.....don't worry about it....It will be forgotten in a few weeks.

Answer 2

Well sweetie the thing you first have to understand is that people will always talk about people behind their backs. It's just the way it is lol..so i'd suggest you to just ignore it. And if you do react you might lose your friends..for example if you believe what Kellie said, you might lose Christie as a friend if she was not telling the truth. And if what Kellie is saying is true then just know that Christie is one of those bad popular girls lol. Maybe that's how she gets herself noticed i don't know..I think it's best for you to just ignore it, if not you might make some enemies :s (since Christie is popular as you said..)
Take care gurl!

Answer 3

That is a very simple one. Do not play the she said,she said game, get Kellie and Christie together with yourself and say here is the deal. Christie, have I done something to offend you because Kellie said that you said this about me, and then repeat what you were told do not add or subtract from it. One of 2 things will happen.

One of them will either get exposed as a backstabber or a liar. Either way you do not need people such as that in your life. Life is way to short to worry about what someone says behind your back.

Answer 4

Yes, You could ask your self what Kellie has to gain by trying to split you and Christie. Why would you trust Kellie to tell the truth now? let it go. Sorta doubtful Christie said anything like you heard. As you go thorough life people are going gossip about you behind your back. just let it roll off, keep your head up eyes forward.

Answer 5

You shouldn't assume popular people can't be trusted. Perhaps Kellie is jealous of your friendship with Christie? Ask Kellie is this is true and to tell you the truth.

Answer 6

School drama
i think that if both are your true friends then you should be able to discuss openly with both of them about the situation at hands and hopefully resolve this issue. If you ask Christie and the answer is not what your looking for at least you will know the truth and beable to hold your head up high instead of hidding the problem. Friends leave your life as fast as they enter. So be wize of whom you befriend and make sure your spending your time with the people who really care about you.

Answer 7

if ur friend christie is really close to you like you say you are best friends before, then if you care about staying friends with christie and ur friendship means that much to you then you should just ask christie one-on-one with no one else around, so that her response could NOT be influenced by others, and just tell her what u heard and ask her if its true that she said that. the best solution is communication, cause rumors are always going around and 75% of the time they are just lies and people just make up these rumors to shake up situations or to give everyone something to talk about........basically they are just bored. good luck, hope i helped.

Answer 8

First of all why isn't she your best friend anymore?

If you and Christie were friends it will be better for you to set things straight with her, ask her, then to just assume what someone else says is true. Believe me, she will appreciate more the fact that u actually asked her then to believe what someone else said and ruin everything you two had.

Answer 9

There are no such things as friends when you are a teenage girl. Sooner or later, they will all talk sh*t about you behind your back, or let your BF fingerbang them in the Burgerking parking lot, etc. So dont trust anything that bleeds for 3 days and doesnt die. once you;re about 30 you can start trusting women again. Just ignroe the situation entirely until then.

Answer 10

I would just carry on as though you had never been told this, as you really haven't. Sadly unless you have heard it first hand you have no idea in what context the comment was said, or if the person meant it in a malicious way. They could have even been joking. Acting on things like this with only hearsay just tends to put you in the poo yourself as before you know it the girl denies saying it and then puts the blame on the person who told you and no doubt it ends with both of them hating you. Everyone says things they shouldn't at times and while i am not saying to turn the other cheek as if you have definate proof you could have something to say about it, it just usually ends up one big mess if you do have something to say.