how can i show my hubby i love him and care foir him and apprecciate me , mine seems to think i dont enough ar eever appreciate him. how come he thinks this he says all i talk about is wanting to divorse . how can we be closer how can i get him to understand the impotance of family and being around and taking care of my needs hes always on the go and hardley stays around are spends time with me . as much time as i would like. help plese i want him to know i do care . iw ant him to appreciate me.ilove him
2006-08-29 17:56:42 · 14 answers · asked by mom2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you have done everything you can think of , and he is still the way he is , he might be as guilty as he accuses. Ask him at this point it sounds like you need to. If he doesn't appreciate you now he probley wont ever. some people are only in our life's for certain reasons and you can still love him but he may have full filled the reason and you may have full filled yours . Take the best and go live your life , good luck
2006-08-29 18:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten,Doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see it all now. Your so lost and so lonely. And you make an effort to be noticed. But you're not. Tell me, is he working all of these times that he is gone? Is he out running around drinking or spending too much time with his friends? When you talk to him, do you say, "I can't handle being alone, maybe we should get a divorce?" or, "If you keep this up, I'm going to divorce you" or "one more time and I'll go file for a divorce". You had better sit that mans a** down and tell him, "hey, this is what I see our relationship as _____" or use more assertiveness in your relationship. Maybe you just don't realize that marriage is not something you use as a weapon. But he feels it.
2006-08-30 01:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not an exhibition to show ur hubby nor needs appreciation. Just take love as a love. Its a feeling only. Your husband knows you love him. May he be ignoring intentionally. Good Luck
2006-08-30 01:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by har 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be a lost cause. Partly because you need someone who doesn't need or want you. And partly because he needs to be with you so he can do whatever he wants and you are so needy you are always going to be there. You might want to better yourself and take some classes in spelling or reading at an adult school, if you are, in fact, an adult. Get counseling so you can leave his ***, or just kill him. Do I hear an AMEN??? LOL
j/k everybody
2006-08-30 01:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book " The proper care and feeding of husbands" is is very helpful in understanding men. Good luck!
2006-08-30 01:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck!I'm divorcing mine for about the same reasons.After 15 years of being talked down to and forgotten you wont love him anymore.Good luck
2006-08-30 01:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a divorce? Why would he think that, and why would you be talking about that?
Show him you love him and care for him by listening, loving and surprising him from time to time with his favorite things. ;)
2006-08-30 01:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Linda T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, set him down and tell him, sometimes outside stess like money or work can make a man think he isnt good enough for you, but deep down they probly love you much they want tyou to have the best. but if he isnt truly happy with you let him go, show him how much you love him by setting him free! i am married so this is sane practical advice!
2006-08-30 01:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by burningmanluver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to him, I mean really pay attension to what he has to say, and "thank him" when he does something for you, no matter if it's just carrying the trash out. Men want attension just like kids, they crave it. And whisper in his ear softly, they love the sexy small things!
2006-08-30 01:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by Wanda G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either insecure or wanting a divorce and projecting onto you. If you want to save this marriage, try counseling or group therapy.
2006-08-30 01:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Shishi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋