My husband has the custody of my 10 years old daughter.I am divorced for 3 months and I just saw her for a week in between coz weather I was out of town or when I came back, she was in summer holiday with his parents.I kept my contact time to time while she was away.Now she is back but she did not call me or not showing any missing for me.I feel she is being away day after day from me and it seems she has moved on to live without me. I don't wanna believe that I am going to lose her.I brought her up strong, independent girl but she was emotional at the same time. I don't know if his family or him have brain washed her or just because I am away of her sight,I am not longer in her mind?? Now on I'll see her once a week.How can I feel stronger to have her attention?How can I ask her to keep her contact with me?All the time I have to be after her & sometimes even she ignores me/No calling back or when I call,she ends up the conversation.Shall I give up on her emotionally till she grow up?
2006-08-29 17:50:05 · 4 answers · asked by Lili 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It hurts a lot when you see after all these years,she does not miss you even? How can I help myself to not hurt or not CRY when I see I am not missed?
2006-08-29 17:55:51 · update #1
Honey, no matter what happens, you never ever give up on your children emotionally. Never! She's ten and at 10, they are busy with friends and doing their own thing. They just don't need the constant doting on and fussing over. Being that she's from a divorced family, it's a great idea that you've decided to see her each week. Maybe that's what the two of you need to tighten that bond. See, if you distance yourself, she is going to turn about 14 or 15 and become really angry at your for not being there for her (even if you were). And this is the age where a daughter needs her mother the most. Her father isn't going to understand her mood swings, the boy phase, etc. Keep that emotional tie. Try until you don't think you can try anymore, and then...try again. Nobody said parenting was easy, children don't come with instructions or a set of guidelines to follow. A good rule of thumb is to put yourself in her shoes. If you want her to call more, simply say, "Honey, you are growing up so fast and I feel like I"m missing out...how about you call me each night (or every other night) to tell me about your day". She'll love the idea that she knows you still care and it'll help you out by reassuring yourself that she still loves her momma.
2006-08-29 18:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just hurting right now. She wants to hurt someone . Just give her some time and she'll come around . Just keep talking to her.
2006-08-30 04:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by MaeMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never give up on your kids, and kids usually never give up on their parents unless the parent has done something bad to them or someone has been brainwashing the child
2006-08-29 18:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there when she is ready to come around , she will
2006-08-29 18:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten,Doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋