Ive been single so long am I that ugly im contemplating suicide?

Question

ive only had one gf in my whole life and I am 21 Ive never had girls come up and ask me to dance or even had a female freind. This is only one of the many reasons why I contemplat suicide but its the main one its hard to be alone for your whole life. Is it my looks that keep the women away from me or is it the fact that I am 21 and have never asked a girl out

holy thats a fair bit of reponses heh as I said women are only a small part of my problems beeing sexualy assulted more then once as child has screwed up my prespectives on life I do live with a condtion that can be fairly painful though is not very noticeable so I usaly suffer with out anyone knowing and suffering alone sucks these last few months of my life I have made a fair bit of bad mistakes and it has lead me to this mind state I hope I can shake it before taking drastic messures my dad almost dieing a few weeks ago didnt help

Answer 1

suicide is the most selfish thing you could do.. there are people who love you and care about your well being. dont do something stupid! espescially over a girls.. it is not that uncommon for guys your age to have no experience with girls.

Answer 2

First off do not think that you need someone else to make you happy, you should;d try to feel confident that you are a good person even if that requires you to give yourself a little pep talk every now and then do.
This is coming from the voice of experience, I am 24 and have never had a boy friend, never made out with anyone or gone on any dates. This is not intentional, I have just never been asked by anyone, and yes it can be lonely at times but looking on the bright side I can do a lot of things as a single person that I could never do if I was in a relationship.
I attempted suicide when I was younger (thinking no one liked me) but now I thank God that I am still alive to enjoy all the little things like boating or spending time with my family or gal pals. You like to do things ( I looked on your 360 page), so get out and do them and stop feeling sorry for yourself because there are other people out there that have the same problem.
Try to be confident in who you are and that will show others that you are worth getting to know, do not ever let yourself think that you are ugly because you are not and feel good about the fact that you have never had to experience a bad relationship, some people have gotten really messed up over a significant other. Really though just learn to accept yourself and do the things you enjoy and the right person will show up, just give it time.
And yes you need to get out there and start talking to those girls, you should not expect things to happen if you never do any thing about them.
You are ONLY 21, hardly the age to be giving up all hope.
Good luck and hope for the best . ~ : )

Answer 3

Don't contemplate suicide. You're only 21 and your whole life hasn't even happened yet. There are plenty of girls in the world. Trust me, we can be really stupid sometimes. Looks are not everything!! Give the girl of your dreams some time to find you!! Ask a girl out. Get rejected. Do it again until you find someone who you can go out with. Dating is supposed to be fun. Don't let girls who turn you down, get you down.

I'm 18 and I am in a very serious relationship with a soon to be
21 year old. He's awesome and I'm sure you are too. It will happen. I though I would never find the elusive "Mr. Right." But I did. Don't worry. Nothing is longer than life. Did you see the movie 40 Year Old Virgin? Rent it. Laugh about it. Then get dressed, go out, and ask some girls to dance. Make sure you look at their face, not their chest! Be nice and polite. Give a girl you number. Wait for her to call. If she doesn't, do it again next week!!

Answer 4

First you have to know that your life is just beginning at 21. Maybe the reason the girls are not coming up to you is your body language or your demeanor in the way you carry yourself. Don't make yourself appear unapproachable. You have to believe in yourself and who you are. If you are happy with who you are, then that will radiate to the girls and women you are trying to attract. Don't wait for the girls to come to you, you make the first move. Maybe you will have to go to some new places to meet some girls instead of the same old ones you have been going to. Suicide is such a selfish act to contemplate. Think of the people you are leaving behind and how that would affect them. It doesn't just involve yourself. This should have never crossed your mind. You are not ugly, you just may need to refine a few things about yourself. Put a smile on your face, you just might surprise yourself with who you get!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Hey young king how r u today? I hope u r fine. And u also hope for that.
Keeping the joke apart, I tell you that the reason for all your problem is your thought pattenn. Unless you change that you cannot expect a defferent result- the pattern make you think about suicide.

Another important factor - You are living in an emotional plane. It is very unhealthy situation. You must be free from all emotional bond(age). Make yourself free and independent. Manifest your real self. Do not be tied to other relationships. You tie them. Do not keep any emotional bond with people or past incidents. Always you are new born. Live for yourself. Take love and g.f as a means of happines and not the reason to live.
goodluck.

Answer 6

The greatest thing about a guy is their good sense of humor and a positive self image, these are very important to all people. please don't feel that way. It sometimes takes people a long time to find a person worthy of their affection. You may need to be more proactive rather that waiting for someone to come to you. You never know maybe someone feel the same about you ???
You are still so young you have alot of time ahead of you,just take it day by day and try to find something good in each day.

Answer 7

first of all no one is ugly.and besides ur so young.remember that your life does not only revolve around girls and dating.there are other relationships like friends and family which can make your life worth living.so, if your still feeling so down about your appearance,get a make over or just colour your hair.believe me it will make you feel better about yourself and you might just have the guts to ask a girl out.

Answer 8

you will never know what the future has in store for you if you end your life look at bill gates he is totally ugly and nerdy and he has a great life. things can't always suck its gonna turn around for you soon your just going thru a bad time it will pass

Answer 9

hey hey hey you're only 21 that's not enuff to think of suicide. are u serious? then ask someone out so you can get a gf

Answer 10

as a chick who is 21 i would say ur pretty cute in that pic!