We all work together. He is from out of town. He takes his breaks with her and I have asked her to please not be so social with him. Today, I walk by his desk and see a ton of emails from her. He closes all of his screens. I go to her desk and i see the same. She closes all screens and would not show me any of the emails. I walk away and she deletes them all. I walk over to his computer and confront him. He had deleted all of his too. They say they they were just talking about me. What should I do?
2006-08-29 17:24:57 · 18 answers · asked by Howie S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, I hate to encourage someone to do something that could be a little premature, but you don't sound stupid. I don't think I need to explain to you what was going on. You know. What to do from here? I guess confront her about it and get down to the truth. You'll have to press on her hard to get it most likely as many people will deny deny deny until caught red handed. And you may have caught them being secretive, but you didn't catch him with his dick in her. Any way you cut it really, soundslike things 'could' be coming to an end. I'm sorry that you're in the position you're in.
2006-08-29 17:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've lived with this woman for 3 years and she is emailing some guy in your office about something they don't want you to see, she's not trustworthy. The devil's in the details. Its your call, but I would give serious consideration to ending the relationship.
There's something going on between them....or that they are contemplating doing.
2006-08-29 17:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears like she had a severe case of jealousy and immaturity. in case you have forgiven her and you omit her, you will possibly desire to care approximately her nonetheless, and she or he grew to become into probable a great component of your existence. 5 years is an prolonged time, you have the two had time to enhance up. 5 years is the final volume of time it takes for a individual to make genuine, deep transformations of their existence so she might deserve yet another threat. inspite of the undeniable fact that, basically considering you're giving her yet another threat, does no longer recommend which you will possibly desire to erase each little thing out of your recommendations. be careful, be careful. do no longer provide her a get-out-of-penitentiary-loose-card, you won't be in a position to make certain which you will no longer get burned returned. If I have been on your place, i might probable initiate sluggish, according to threat e-mailing her back. Be friendly, enable her recognize by using the style you talk which you at the instant are not nonetheless offended together with her. in case you get to conversing together with her, sense it out; decide from her reactions in case you think of it may well be a secure wager to enable her into your heart returned. you recognize her extra effective than any human beings do, you would be the ideal decide of if she's being truthful or no longer. basically make certain you're taking it sluggish, which you do no longer might desire to easily forgive, ignore, and rush back into the closeness of the friendship. believe is earned, no longer given. solid good fortune! i'm hoping you will locate happiness on your friendship!
2016-11-06 01:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by holliway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there was more than just innocent chit chat going on between them. It's time to put your foot down. No more breaks, no more e-mails, no more friendship between them. You are right to be uncomfortable with the situation. Hopefully it hasn't gotten out of hand yet and it's time to nip it in the bud. That's what I would do but maybe I'm overreacting.
2006-08-29 17:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so jealous of your girlfriend talking to this guy? If I was your girlfriend I would dump your sorry butt for not trusting me. Its not like you caught her cheating on you. She emails him and takes breaks with him? Is that it? Get over yourself!! There is probably nothing going on. They probably deleted the emails because you are being a selfish jealous jerk. If there is any chance of anything ever happening between the two of them, you are the one pushing them to it.
2006-08-29 17:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The internet is a good way to start cheating and thats how it starts with emails and if they are harmless emails then why are they both so secretive about them I think you deserve better let him have her if they want to be so social on the net find you a woman who isnt an internet ho.
2006-08-29 17:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that is so hurtful for someone to treat you with such disrespect what is she thinking! She is not the one for you I would never deceive the one I love, and that is what she is doing right in front of your face! Pack her bags and tell her to leave and to move in with her so-called Friend. Once you get rid of her, do not move in with anyone else. Living with someone is not a good idea because when Sh#t happens it is easier to get rid of her, do not live with anyone until you marry.
2006-08-29 17:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didnt have something to hide she would let you see the emails. Sounds like shes cheating
2006-08-29 17:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah um they are probably not only chatting about you but making some hot plans so just get out now.... you are already hurting so why torment yourself more... i wouldnt want to know more if i was you or even think about putting myself through more.... its not like your birthday is coming up or something is it and they are planning some big party for you are they .... probably not ;( sorry pack her **** for her hand it to her give her a kiss and tell her goodbye as you shove her *** out the door and tell her not to come back .... dont forget to pack everything.....
2006-08-29 17:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by fantasia91273 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't freak out yet. what if they're planning a surprise birthday party or something for you? be suspicious, but don't freak until you catch them in the act of something more than emails. Also, perhaps you should have a relationship where you can have her email password...openness.
2006-08-29 17:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋