2006-08-29 17:23:56 · 36 answers · asked by bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every couple has differences in opinions, just accept the others thoughts and feelings and move on. Respect how they feel and dont try to change how they feel.
2006-08-29 17:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, keep in mind that it is only a difference of opinion, not a reason to be unhappy with each other. As a matter of fact, it's a great opportunity for the two of you to share your wisdom with each other.
A nice way for a couple to convince each other of who is right (or has the best opinion) is to post two sheets on the kitchen bulletin board. Each sheet is titled DIFFERENCE OF OPINION. One has the word HIS beneath the title, and the other has the word HERS beneath the title. Then each has the words SUPPORTING INFORMATION beneath that. On yours, you write all the various items of information that support your opinion. In essence, why you think the way you do. Number each entry. He does the same on his sheet. If the information grows, and grows, you'll most likely end up with more than one sheet for each person. Just number them and staple them together. Every so often, take your opponents sheets and read them. Explain that you are reading his latest input to see whether he's written anything yet that might sway you to his way of thinking. If he hasn't. Just look at him, tell him "I still love you baby, and I'm not saying that you are wrong; I'm just saying that you haven't convinced me that you are right yet." And then add, "And while we're on this subject, have I, by any chance, convinced you that I'm right yet?" The secret is to keep it friendly.
I assume you and your husband are intelligent people who can accept being wrong if the supporting information shows that. If you are hot heads who resort to violence if people don't see things your way, or if supporting information shows you to have had the wrong opinion, then you don't need to try to sway each other, you need a divorce.
This can be a fun type activity that you can engage in often, but it can also be a very dangerous activity. You need to understand your relationship and make the right choice.
PS: I'm not big on compromise. If my wife and my neighbor's wife discover the opera, and my wife tells me I just have to experience this with her, I would definitely be against it. Her opinion would be that it's great, mine would be that it flat out sucks. Compromise in such a situation would, to me, be agreeing to be tortured. My idea of keeping everyone happy would be to have the wives go to the opera, and the husbands play games with the kids at home (something they probably don't do often enough, and that would give them a chance to better understand what spending time with the kids is about).
2006-08-29 18:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree to disagree? Actually I think it depends on what the indifference is. The best thing to do would be to compromise and each of you give a little to get a little. Which means you'll both have to sit down, hear each other out and find a solution you can both tolerate. I'm not saying you have to be thrilled with it, just tolerate it enough to end the bickering. If it's politics or religion? That's an entirely different ballgame and in that case...agreeing to disagree while respecting each other's views is the only way to get through that one.
2006-08-29 17:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be right, or you can have a harmonious household, there's not really a happy medium there.
If I'm really pissed off, I'll take awhile to cool off and write a note to them, they can do the same, that way there's rational thought & no in-your-face fighting and nothing is said thats not meant (it IS in writing). Hopefully you'll come to a rational compromise or worst case blurt out a "I'm sorry, You were right."
Take some time, cool off, and go with whats most rational or feels best for you and your other, no matter whre it came from.
2006-08-29 17:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize you are human. The goal of marriage isn't to become clones of one another. Celebrate your differences, it's good to be different, mixes it up and keeps it in balance. Try to compromise and accept the fact you just can't have your way all the time. Best of Luck...
2006-08-29 17:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by cliffb52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more reasonable and practical point of view must prevail. If both have equal good points then settle it through tic-tac-toe. Put humor in your arguments, it works all the time.
2006-08-29 17:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Henr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the difference of opinion is about. You can agree to disagree.
2006-08-29 17:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a middle road if you can it happens a lot every body has different opinions about some things. some times its best to say you have your opining and I have mine and that is that.
2006-08-29 17:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says we are to OBEY our husbands. Even if we don't agree per say, it is still our rightful place to obey and let him be the one who feels bad about the bad decision later on...
2006-08-29 17:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you disagree about. If it is over fried or roast chicken....who cares. If its over cheating and fidelity then there's problems.
Your question is way to general to answer in a meaningful way.
2006-08-29 17:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋