We have been dating for almost 6 and a half years and he wont bring up the marriage situation and if I do he gets real quiet and keeps saying "oneday" and he freaks out if I say I am tired of waiting and I want to see other people. Whats wrong with him???
2006-08-29 17:18:20 · 20 answers · asked by na nah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wait we have been living together for like 4 years, how do you just leave??
2006-08-29 17:25:36 · update #1
I am 26 and he is 27/ never been married and no kids
2006-08-29 17:37:41 · update #2
He has some commitment issues, I would tell him that you really care about him but at this stage you are looking for marriage and possibly a family! I would tell him that since he freaks out about the subject he obviously isn't ready, but you are.
Note if you are doing everything for him a wife would do than why would he want to marry you?I hope you are not shacking up with him, I am not being mean, but think about it.
I would tell him that he may need time to think things over but you don't,so either talk about the walk down the aisle or take a hike!
You go girl! Good luck!
2006-08-29 17:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make someone propose to you. No matter how long you have been in a relationship, the one thing I have learned about men is that they do something IF they truly want to. If not, it won't happen. He isn't interested in getting married. He freaks out when you bring up the subject--HE ISN"T READY!!! That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him. You certainly don't want to browbeat a man into marrying you if he isn't ready--it will only end in divorce and no one wants that.
Now, you have to decide on what you are going to do about it. Either accept that fact and continue on with the relationship as it is--or you walk. Yes you have invested a lot of time and energy in this relationship, but there is no guarantee of a marriage payoff in the end. You cannot control what he does, but you certainly can control your own life.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 18:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's controlling you...however, how long can a woman wait....it's way past time to leave....however be careful if he gets mean. Have your cell phone and purse ready to run and then call your family, the police and your nearest women's helpline.
What's wrong with him? You didn't say how old you both are. You didn't say if he's been married before or had a bad breakup, or a woman who stood him up at the alter, or maybe it's just the old axiom "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" (I didn't mean that as a rude remark, or how it sounded, just that it's reality so he has no reason to marry you).
2006-08-29 17:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! Do not waste your pretty on him and your youth life is too short to wait on a man. My advices to you move on and get over him because there are other men that would love to be your partner forever. I met plenty of men that did not want to comment so I just moved on to the next, one day I met him and we have been married for 26 years. I just went to my class year reunion and met up with this one old friend I new that waited for one guy she was so crazy about. she had a child from him but that didn’t work he still wouldn’t marry her or anyone else for that matter, Well here she is 49 years old and still unmarried she wasted her beauty and youth for nothing. Say good-bye to him because there are other fishes in the sea! DO NOT WASTE THE PRETTY!
2006-08-29 17:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you guys are already married. Leaving together is the tough part and you did it I dont thin a piece of paper can make a difference besides man get scared when they fill like they are being hold back. Let him go to you he will say it eventually... good luck
2006-08-29 18:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Madelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have a problem, you do b/d u are settling for what he is giving you. In the words of my late mother and many others, "Why would he buy the cow, when he can get for free??!!
Now it is your choice to either make up your own mind and poop or get off the pot!! Don't allow him to have the control of when or if you get married, take the lead and leave him behind!! Good luck and God Bless!
2006-08-29 17:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a big step; he's probably afraid of lengthy major commitment.
The two of you should have a one on one conversation about major commitment first before marriage.
When it reaches 7 years and if he still hasn't brought up marriage, bring it up to him, if he stil isn't ready, it's time to move on because perhaps he doesn't have the same future plans as you do.
2006-08-29 17:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to get married, but doesn't want to lose you. 6 and 1/2 years is a long time. I'd move on, life is too short. I think he's comfortable with the way things are and doesn't feel the desire to take it to the next level, regardless of how you feel.
2006-08-29 17:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Sann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine has been with his girlfriend for four years and they have three children together and he still hasn't asked her to marry him. He doesn't ever want to settle down or commit himself to any one woman and now that she has his kids she can never cut him out of her life. I think you really need to re-evaluate your relationship with him. Do you want to wait for a baby to come into such a relationship where you're not even sure where things stand?
2006-08-29 18:54:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how long you are willing to wait. Plus guys are weird. You never know what they are thinking. My fiance proposed all of a sudden without me having any clue that he was even thinking about it. 6 1/2 yrs is a long time tho. Might be time to have a serious talk about what he wants as far as a future with you. Of course, you could always propose to him...
2006-08-29 17:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋