I got into a fight a few months ago with a close friend over something she thought I said about something else.... we haven't talked since and will probably never be friends again. I know she doesn't care anymore, and even though I try not to think about it, I always have dreams that we make up and apologize. The fight overall left me hurt and confused (and completely backstabbed)......how do I get over this?
2006-08-29 17:13:03 · 5 answers · asked by C. T 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I had a similar thing and dream, and I figured out that even though I was angry with the person over something very, very, big; I'm not the kind of person who is comfortable with fights with people.
After a series of dreams where I was all buddies with this person I started to have dreams where I was yelling at this person!! I got to say all the things that I had apparently was really feeling (the anger I almost didn't allow myself to have because I am an understanding and empathetic person and had tried to overlook a lot of this other person's outrageous and mean behavior). After I yelled at her in a few dreams, there was another dream where she was a child who was waiting for me to come do something for her, but I had all kinds of obtacles in my way and couldn't get to her before I awoke from one epic dream.
If you were left hurt and confused then its likely you'll have a few dreams that will allow you to process those feelings and get past them. I've found that the most obvious, surface feelings get processed first. Then the next layer down gets processed. Eventually, you go through all the layers until you get to the bottom one.
I'm guessing (could be wrong) that you are in the "surface level" where your personality isn't comfortable with having fought with a friend. You may have to put up with this dream a while longer or else there may be more. Just remember them, try to think of what feelings you have in the dream, and eventually they'll stop.
2006-08-29 21:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a card explaining that you value the friendship you had and apologize for the misunderstanding. If you don't receive a reply, at least it might help you to better clarify yourself sooner should it happen again with someone else. But then again, maybe you just both grew in different ways and it was time.
2006-08-30 00:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by ma8pi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dreams are just your subconscious mind dealing with the unresolved conflict.In order to get beyond it,forgive your friend completely for misunderstanding you.Be the first one to reach out to her,let her know you are sorry,if she still refuses to forgive you,then you need to find peace and acceptance about that and move on. Good luck to you.I hope you sort it out,good friends are rare to come by.
2006-08-30 00:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not call her and try to solve the situation. If it continues as before just say "we can agree to disagree" but I miss your friendship, can we be friends again?.
2006-08-30 00:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems u need closure , find a way to get in touch with her and resolve the issue
2006-08-30 00:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋