my best friend had a quincenera (sweet 15) and i never knew about it unitl she called me the night before, really late inviting me. but i had other plans. so my parents say that when she calls or if i see her at school to not talk to her because she did not invite me to her party evn though we are best buds since we were young. but another of my friend called me a few days before asking me if i was going to go to her party but i didn't know.
and when my best friend( the one of the party) called she told me that she didn't know she was going to have a party because it was a surprise and because it was just going to be her family there.
So what should i do? should i listen to my parents and not forgiving her for not inviting me. or should i still talk to her?
2006-08-29 16:58:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There could be many reasons why she invited you late. Why don't you ask her about it. At least she invited you.
As for your parents, I don't know what sort of parent would advise a child to not be friends with someone else over a late birthday invite. Tolerance should be taught to the young, not dropping friends over small instances.
I'm wondering, if it was a surprise party and you weren't invited ... maybe your parents and her parents have an issue with each other and the kids have absolutely nothing to do with it.
2006-08-29 17:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your parents teaching you if they are telling you not to forgive someone for something???? Not good parenting if you ask me. I understand how you feel. When I was in 8th grade my friend had a halloween party and I was not invited. I was very upset. I didn't even know about the party until the next monday when everyone asked why I wasn't there. I avoided my friend for a couple days until she finally cornered me and asked why I wasn't at her party and why I was so mad at her. Come to find out, she found my invitation in the back of the top shelf of her locker a few weeks later... it was just an oversite. She didn't have any invites left so she figured I must have gotten one.
My friends threw me a surprise party for my 16th birthday... and they never invited me or my best friend. We ended up up north visiting her grandma...
Be the bigger person and forgive her.
2006-08-30 00:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused about what you said, but I'm trying to make sense of it.
If she is your best friend she would have invited you the day she made it, unless it really was a surprise and she found out the night before....
2006-08-30 00:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by um yea hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is told u the truth then u can forgive her, but if she lied to u about the party, i think u should cut her off for a day or 2 and then u put it behind u and make up with, thats if she doesn't do it first.
2006-08-30 00:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's a better situation than mines haha ...shes a friend and she didn't know about it ...my family planned a party for my brothers girlfriend ...and i wasn't even invited to the party ...and on my b-day i didn't even get a cake and only Mom said happy b-day ....so if i were you ...i'll forgive her :-) actually there's nothing to forgive ...unless she were to be lying to you so that you wouldn't feel bad ...but let's hope that's not the situation!
2006-08-30 00:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzeth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on whether she means a lot to you or not. I would be mad, but You must ask yourself, is it worth losing your friendship over? Did you invite her to yours? When you have one, wait til the last minute to invite her.
Personally, I'd forgive her, and get on with life.
2006-08-30 00:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mindi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from the sound of things i am sure she isnt a bad influence. for any reason if she didnt want you there dont be upset that doesnt mean is a bad friend people cant do everything together. plus maybe she didnt know. well anyway tell your parents that there is no reason she shouldnt still be your friends and its redicoulis they dont want you to talk to her. wish u luck
2006-08-30 00:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by daniel l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy both and now that u feel this way maybe its time to find a new freind you sound nice dont think about it to much did she say sorry
i m sorry for u these kind of thing can make you lose a lot of precious timee think about good thing like how u will help your self in the futer
2006-08-30 00:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by J33317 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let bygones be bygones. Good friends are too hard to get these days, and why throw away a friendship over something so trivial. Go with your heart on this one.
2006-08-30 00:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm surprise at your parent's response, to ignore your friend just because she didn't invite u? isn't that a little lame? no offense to your parents, but i'd still be friends with her and also, it seems that she had valid reasons.
2006-08-30 00:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by simkhristy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋