NOt even put out to pasture, but, put out on the street with NOTHING...... expected to sell your furniture and live in a homeless shelter at 54 or move back in with your 79 year old mother??
2006-08-29 16:56:06 · 22 answers · asked by J P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The answers have been interesting and some funny, but, it is interesting how many people don't really answer the question, they comment on the situation, give sympathy, or ask questions, but, don't really answer the question I am asking, which is "What is the best revenge....??". I am not asking if revenge is good or justified in this situation, I am asking for an effective technique to cause a little discomfort (not murder, mind you).
I don't even 'hate'....
2006-09-01 04:49:55 · update #1
30 years of your life you say? And was there a marriage, because surely you've earned your right to half, and I do mean half...half the retirement, half of his pension, half of his everything honey. You aren't going to any homeless shelter. If you name is on the house, he can't throw you out...if anything, and it gets ugly, the police will escort him out.
As far as revenge? Living well is the best revenge. Nothing can top it. He'll see you doing so well without him and he'll be kicking himself for it for years to come. If you want to do physical revenge...look at it this way, a simple act of revenge will be forgotten about rather quickly, you run the risk of getting into trouble, or worse...get locked up. It's not worth it and if that happens....doesn't he essentially win again? Take the high road here. If you need to move in with your mother until you are back on your feet, then do so...or just stay with her, spend whatever years she has left taking care of her...it could be a blessing in disguise.
I wish you well honey.
2006-08-29 17:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he has done now sounds unforgiveable, but you haven't given us enough information.
During those 30 years, did you go out to work or otherwise contribute your fair share to the marriage? Clearly, you can't have spent all 30 years raising children. If, in the years you weren't raising kids, you sat back and expected him to provide for you, then he has already given you a lot.
If, on the other hand, you brought financially equal shares into the marriage, and you pulled your weight equally throughout those years (either by raising the kids or working), then you have a strong case in the divorce courts to get half of the property and investments.
But I wouldn't call that revenge, just justice. As some other posters have said, revenge only poisons your life. Don't waste your effort on it.
2006-08-29 19:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made it really hard to answer your question, because you haven’t given anyone a proper understanding of the your situation. We can only assume that you were married for 30 years, and that your husband has kicked you out on the street.
You now want ‘revenge’.
If the above assumption isn’t correct, then you really need to edit your question, so that you include more information.
I don’t know that you should be seeking revenge…
Perhaps you should be ‘thanking him’ for the thirty years of his life that he shared with you!!!
I can only assume you were with him for 30 years…
What were those years like?
Why did he kick you out?
Until you provide additional information that will help me to understand your situation a lot better, I am not going to help you in your quest for ‘revenge’!!!
2006-08-29 17:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously things are looking up for you. From living in a homeless shelter to having internet access to talk on yahoo answers. Therefore you are doing better. So if you have made it this far, keep worrying about yourself. But when you are completly on your feet you can do much damage. If you were with him 30 yrs you know everything about him. So dont ask us. Just use your wits and mind an have a hayday with pranks
2006-08-29 17:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by humorme! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you were married with no pre-nup? . If yes, you're entitled to at least half of everything acquired after the marriage. Not married? some states have a "Common Law Marriage," check into it. Even if not married you may be entitled to half everything. If none of the above applies. Get revenge by getting your life together and being successful and happy. Nothing would probably piss him off more than seeing you more prosperous and happy than him. Impossible? Can't happen to you. My father was in your same shoes once and he did it!
2006-08-29 17:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by microwaved-brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, there are worse thingsa in life to have to deal with. Be glad that u have life, liberty, and GOD!! You have all that u need, so hold ur head up high, go home and start over. It's never 2 late 2 give ur life 2 the LORD and walk his way. God is trying to humble u and show u where he wants u 2 be, go and do! Take heed and follow his lead! Look @ it from new eyes and understand what lies before u and go and get what GOD has for u. GOD BLESS and goodluck!!
2006-08-29 17:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if the house is in your name or not, you DO NOT have to leave. Don't believe me? Call an attorney. Or better yet, call the cops and let them know that your significant other is putting all your stuff outside...they'll jump on his *ss for being a jerk. Take him for all he's got... that's the best revenge. And if you were married and he left you for another woman, than sue her for alienation of affection!
2006-08-29 17:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Were you married? If not find out if your state has a common law marraige. Get a lawyer, let the Lawyer know if you made any payments on the house or place you were living. He cannot kick you out if you were on the title of the house or lease. Go to your local church. Even if you do not belong to the church they maybe helpful. God Bless you.
Oh and if you are married to this man or own the house together, Drain him Dry.
2006-08-29 17:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the revenge. Take him for everything he's worth. What goes around comes around. Eventually, he will get what's coming to him. He is a hateful, ugly, evil person to do such a thing to a woman he was with for 30 years. Be glad your rid of him. Don't let him take another 30. God bless you.
2006-08-29 17:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best revenge is a life well lived. Don't waste your time or energy on him anymore. Hate is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die from it.
2006-08-29 17:03:30 · answer #10 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋