had a few drinks with a lousy friend, and he mind-f*cked me into going to a brothel. Never had a girlfriend then. It sucks as i've finished, i started to see other customers and wonder whether i wld be one of them, a hooker-addict. I had thrown all my values down drain. That is not who i wanna be in future. So i swore to myself never to come back again.
But the ultimate Q is that, in the future if i have a relationship with a girl that i really love, when wld be the best time to disclose this incident? wld she forgive me for this thing happened b4 our relationship started, and understand that it was just out of curiosity & few beers? Or wld she mark me as an infidel and judge my whole character based on this one incident?
I dont plan to hide this from my future partner, as it wld feel like cheating and i wld feel guilty. I need some sincere advice please.
2006-08-29 16:21:25 · 16 answers · asked by LEGO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop being an idiot.
You made a mistake. Big deal. So, now you're gonna punish your future partner and sabotage any future relationship?
Good luck. Don't forget the condoms.
2006-08-29 16:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about other women but I think pretty much all men have tried a hooker at least once in their life. I would imagine it would be refreshing to hear you say you did it and hated it. I wouldn't ever have to wonder if you'd want to do it again at some point down the line.
2006-08-29 16:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you're taking yourself way too seriously.
You're worrying about telling a person you haven't met a very personal incident and fretting over her reaction? This will thought, not the whoring action, will be the biggest negitive affect on any future relationship.
Volunteer at the food bank in your area. Helping others gets us out of ourselves.
2006-08-29 16:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by rkalch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me u made a minor, silly mistake that doesnt really matter since ur not in a relationship now. its not neccessary for u to disclose this incident to a girl especially since its in the past. as long as u used protection and ur health is not in jeporady or ur partners health, it should be something u keep to urself. look at it this way, if ur girlfriend had been a hooker would u want to know? would u want to know every detail of her past? when people do that they end up judging the other person for the duration of their relationship.
2006-08-29 16:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, with the greatest of respect, you may not want the hide anything from a future partner, but you certainly don't need to go advertising it. I personally don't believe that you should be disclosing detailed info about your past whores or no whores.
2006-08-29 16:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Hypocrite Hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to tell any future girlfriend about your past sexual partners. I don't discuss those types of things with a boyfriend because my past sex life is just that, the past. Honestly, I'd be very turned off if a guy told me he was with a prostitute, I don't know if I could accept that.
2006-08-29 16:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's respectable that you are acknowledging your mistakes and willing to take the responsibility from it. When you find the one you love I think you just tell her when you feel confident she won't ditch you for it and it she does then this is a cross you gotta carry for it. But either way, if she loves you then she wouldn't care.
2006-08-29 16:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my guy told me this happened b4 we were together then we would just laugh about it... together.....then run straight to the clinic to get tested just in case. I personally would not care, we were not together and I cannot be angry at him for choices he made.....as long as it never happened while we were together.
Good Luck with that, could be worse really
2006-08-29 16:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by KansasCityGirl26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you expect any future girlfriend to tell you about everyone she had sex with?
2006-08-29 16:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Evil Homer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her whenever you are ready. it shouldnt atter that it happened if it was before her. As long as you didnt get any diseases from it, it really shouldnt matter
2006-08-29 16:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by m j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋