Each of us is unique (like everone else). So, we all have different ways we want to be treated. I would love everyone to be totally honest with me all the time- even brutally honest. I can handle that. But i know fer damn sure that people don't want me to be honest, even a little bit. I do alright with people. Partly because i (as i like to think ) 'play the war'. I mean i fit in. Ya know? I'm just a person like anyone else. We all have different standards and such. So, is the golden rule BS?
2006-08-29 16:20:46 · 16 answers · asked by Hymn 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do you want to be upset by what people say to you? If not, the answer is self evident. If you want honesty, that's what will make you happy. If someone else doesn't want their boat rocked, that's what will make them happy. Personally, I'm as honest with people as I think they can tolerate. Otherwise, why waste their time or my own? If you are intentionally hurting or upsetting someone else, that is neither the golden rule, in your own self interest or even cute.
2006-08-29 16:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brutally honest is telling your ex wife that she rates 3 or 4 on a scale of ten.
Brutally honest is refusing a steak for free that is well done, when you order a medium rare.
I would'nt order a well done, so why would I refuse a steak, and eat for free what I would not want to pay for?
Wanting honesty all the time is cool, but we all are human, and we all lie.
"No officer, I don't know where that roach came from"!
All we can do is the best we can.
I may be in the world, but I am not part of the world.
No games.
I do not violate the world, and in turn, the world does not violate me.
2006-08-29 23:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned the hard way that there is a big difference in being brutely honest and being hurtful. I think you should go by the golden rule at all times but use disgression. Also, if you can't say something good it is best to say nothing at all. Even if you say nothing you are still being honest! This is the way I try to live my life.
2006-08-29 23:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by ru.barbie2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your belief and desire fit into the "Golden Rule?" The Golden Rule basically tells us to worship God and treat each other as we want to be treated. I know you think you could handle brutal honesty, but it's easier to handle if gently put. For example, you're a worthless piece of excrement who wastes oxygen is much better than me hitting you with a lead pipe until you cease to breathe.
2006-08-29 23:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you really need to pay more attention to your grammer. It makes you seem like a moron!
By the way, I, meaning "me" is always capitalized.
When it comes to The Golden Rule, I believe Jesus was saying to treat others with the respect you would like to receive; not to treat them EXACTLY how you want to be treated. That's silly! I mean, that would mean there would have to be urinals in the Women's bathrooms.
Sorry about the slams at the beginning of my answer, I just wanted to see if you were for real.
2006-08-29 23:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The golden rule has become kind of warped over the years. I believe it actually reads "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". There's a big difference between that and "treat others as you would have them treat you". Think about it and get back to us. You'll figure it out.
2006-08-29 23:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Me again 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, I'm the same way, but I think the Golden Rule still applies because otherwise people would be more cruel to each other.
2006-08-29 23:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very cool thought...caught me off guard. You know you can handle truth. You know a lot of people can't. When you hold back a brutal truth, you are showing consideration for that person's feelings. Thus..don't you want people to be considerate with your feelings, too? They may not know you are a tough kid.
2006-08-29 23:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can still apply it in this manner-consider how you would want to be treated if you had the other person's unique qualities-e.g. if you know they don't want the truth tell a white lie or say nothing.
2006-08-29 23:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so u fit in , i fit in too, but because, like u say, every body is different, so because of that u cant expect every body to act the way u want them to. some ppl will be honest and some wont
2006-08-29 23:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by tim s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋