How can I get him to get rid of some of his stuff? What can I say or do to help? Our house is small and there are piles of his stuff everywhere! There is barely any floor left to walk on! I have nothing left to get rid of to make room for his stuff! It is like a mental illness with him - he can't throw away anything!!!! HELP!
2006-08-29 16:16:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to him about how much stuff he has collected. Ask him to please thin it out. Box as much of it up as possible and have him pay for storage if needed.
If he doesn't respond, take care of it for him. Take his stuff to a storage building. Throw out any garbage, like old newspapers, magazines, broken gadgets, unrepairable clothing, etc... If the stuff hasn't been toughed in more than a year, it's safe to put it in storage. If he hasn't touched it in 5 years, then it's trash. If you haven't been with him long enough to know, then just use your best judgment. You know what just sits there collecting dust and what gets used.
He'll probably get angry, but remind him that he was unwilling to help. He didn't want to take the responsibility of his mess, so you had no choice.
My husband always gets mad when I throw out his old t-shirts and jeans because of holes, but I told him in the beginning that it was either buy patches or they go in the trash. He made the decision when he said he wouldn't wear patched clothing. I have to remind him of this monthly. I won't tolerate ripped clothing when it's not at an easy to sew place, like a seam, so I just throw them in the trash outside when I do laundry. That way he can't retrieve it from the top of a trash can indoors. Cruel, but effective.
2006-08-29 16:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a thought, Move.
say, somewhere like, Tennessee, or somethin
DON'T sell your house............... whats the point, think of all that cleaning you'll have to do at the showings, too much work.
OK, next step........use your old house as a storage unit.
Then when you move to your new beautiful, clean, sparkling house, mail his boxes that sits in the living room, every week so it doesn't clutter your new house.
Don't let your next shower become a storage unit.
I wish I could do that, my back room is an office, library,workout room, my closet, my daughters closet, it's a nursery, and sometimes a laundry room, and it's also a storage unit for stuff we don't know what to do with.
Have you ever thought for a second that we are the ones with a mental illness? I definitely have a cleaning mental illness, and there ain't NO way I'm changing!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-30 01:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by old & decreped 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, he can't throw away anything. Oh I remember being a packrat once in Neopets. :D
Um, he can't but you can. Just throw away stuff you guys won't use. If he loves his stuff too much, maybe you could just give the stuff to people who would need it or put them in the recycle bins or both. At least, he knows that the stuff is being used by more desperate people. I don't know if this will work but this is what it takes to make me give up my stuff. ^_^;; I know I am a packrat too, that's why I don't buy stuff recklessly to avoid the headache in the first place. Good luck! :)
2006-08-29 23:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, its a mental illness of some sort - yes, he is a pack rat. Coach him into counsel ling. It will only get worse if he does not get help... I guarantee.
2006-08-29 23:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say he deserves someone who accepts him, not someone who tries to change him.
News bulletin!!! He ain't gonna change so why don't you go find someone who meets your secret criteria!
2006-08-29 23:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by rkalch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋