good things happen to good girls?

Question

I'm a firm believe that good things happen to good girls. Ive always been a good girl. However back in the days of high school, not many guys wanted to date me. Now fast forward a couple years and Im a junior in college now. And my boyfriend right now is in his last year of medical school to be a doctor. I'm sure if i was a slut or a ***** my boyfriend wouldnt have even looked at me. Am I right or no?

Answer 1

Good things happen to everybody, so do bad things. There is no such thing as good luck or bad luck; it is a human creation to explain why things happen.

You did not have a boyfriend in high school because during that time most males have not matured and only want sex. Now that you are in college, the males are more mature, they look more for a future not a quickie.

You are happy and have a boyfriend now not because you were a “good girl” but because the boys grew up.

Answer 2

Well, you may have a guy who is a "traditionalist," and often a lot of baggage goes with that package. However, it's PROBABLY a package with which your personality is compatible, so it doesn't matter if he's dominant, or sexist, or believes in the religious concept of "headship," or whatever, because those things aren't necessarily bad--they're just bad for SOME PEOPLE.

BTW, before you go thinking that nothing bad can ever happen to you if you just keep on the straight and narrow, then read a really good (but somewhat old) book called, "When Bad Things Happen To Good People." It's written by a religious person in an attempt t explain why believing in God and still knowing that bad things can happen to good people are not incompatible concepts.

Answer 3

What difference does it make what we think? But since you asked, he may have looked at you, who knows but it's not wether or not he would look at you that matters. What really matters is that you can respect yourself. You don't have to feel guilty about being sleezy when you were younger.

I had quite a few boyfriends in high school but I always made it clear that I wasn't going to sleep with anyone until I got married and now I'm not sorry for that decision. I'm proud of myself and my husband is happy with me too.

By the way, I agree with a few of the above answers, you do sound cocky and he hasn't married you yet so don't be too sure of yourself and don't give it up to him either or you may find yourself alone again. Also, just because he's going to be a doctor doesn't mean he's such a good thing, a man can be a garbage collector and be a good thing too, it all depends on his values and how he treats you. Your doctor may end up beging the biggest cheat ever after he's married.

But Good Luck, I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

I'm not sure what the **** mean but I disagree with you.

The reason you do the right thing is that it's the right thing to do. You don't do it for the reward. Would you say that if something bad happened to someone then they must be a bad person? No. Some bad people do bad things and profit from it. Some good people do good things and pay the price. I think it's a true test of ones character to do the right thing regardless of the consequences.

Answer 5

You're right, your fiance' probably wouldn't have gone for you. He wanted a nice girl because that's the kind of guy he is. And that's the kind of girl a lot of professional guys want, the kind they can bring home to mother. Just beware of what Seinfeld taught us though. The dream of becoming a doctor is to get a better girl. (And if he looks at nudie magazines or porn or likes to socialize with other women at parties and such that's a sign that he's actually pretty cool and would like some 'strange' someday).

Answer 6

exactly what nellie said... two thumbs up. because you were "good" doesn't make you better than anyone else. also because your bf's going to be (if and when he graduates and passes his boards) a doctor doesn't make him better than the next guy. a good man is one who will love and respect you. he can place you on a pedestal while still treating you as his equal. you can't judge a man by the letters behind his name, but rather by the deeds and reputation that follow. look for a mate based on values, principle, and character rather than title and prestige. you may be right about him not wanting to be with you if you had been ****. but there's somebody for everybody.

Answer 7

No, he just sees you as a piece of azz, just like the boys in high school would have. You have just convinced yourself that you are better than other girls, which is an awful personality trait. If you get married, maybe five years it will last before your husband sees through your transparent facade, and divorces you for his younger, skinnier medical assistant who is a tramp and gave it up the first time he asked. Good luck though!

Answer 8

You are right. Most guys will tell you, "there are girls you play with and girls you stay with". I don't think anyone wants a spouse to have been a sleep around, male or female. I refuse to date a guy who is keeping score on his bed posts.

Answer 9

As long as you're whore in the bedroom. The nicegirl routine is great at family dinners but you have to be a total sl ut in the sack in order for the relationship to work.

Answer 10

Good and bad happen to everybody. Being good or bad just slightly alters the directions of the Good or the Bad to slightly worse results or slightly better results.