I am 17 years old, and I am pregnant by a 19 year old.?

Question

We have been dating for 3 years, and he wants me to just give our baby away. He says he can't take care of it. Would he have to pay me child support, if he decides he does not want to have any thing to do with us?

Answer 1

Yes, he does have to pay child support, it's the law. Good luck, Honey, you'll be fine.

Also, to the people that say it was statutory rape, that's not necessarily true. For example, in CT, 16 is the age of legal consent.

Answer 2

So your pregnant by a 19 yr. old, and your only 17 yrs old. Did you stop and think anything over before you hopped into bed with this guy? Did you stop and think about who will pay for the baby after it was born or how you will support it if the father decided that he didn't want the baby? NO!! You just happened to have sex with him in hopes of getting pregnant and didn't stop to figure any of these things out. Now your pregnant and wondering who is going to support you and your baby. I think you were just a tad immature about getting into the situation your in and not thinking it threw before hand. I am against teen age pregnancies only because too many times, the baby is the one that suffers, not the parents. The baby not old enough to make any type of decisions on it's own, is being taken care of, supposedly by someone who is immature and not thinking so much of that baby but about who is going to support that child. Did you for even one second consider adoption? Then you would have no say in the support or have to worry how that baby would survive or who would be in charge of that baby. All you had too do was lay back and spread your legs so you could feel good and let your boyfriend think he loved you. When in reality that same boyfriend now wants nothing to do with that baby that he produced. What a shame, I feel sorry for that baby, not knowing how it is too be supported.

Answer 3

Have you gotten some serious counseling yet??? This is not an easy decision for someone 17 or 30. I have a cousin who got pregnant at age 20.....made the decision to give the baby up for adoption (by the way,, this takes a lot of courage and love for the baby....to realize you probably can't take care of the child without family support...both financially and emotionally). This cousin of mine went on with her education and is a methodist minister today. With the arrangements set up 20 years ago, she still goes to see her biological child once a year....she and her husband have adopted two foster children they had for several years. Now they have a baby of their own. A 19 year old's ability to pay enough child support to make a big difference is not going to happen ......only because he doesn't have an education, regardless what the court says....it will only be a minimal amount. Good luck, God bless you and give this so much prayer and thought from older people.

Answer 4

To the one that was saying something about not being married you can't get child support, that is wrong. You may have to go through child support recovery. I had an ex-b/f that had 2 kids, that he didn't even know about until they were 11, then he received a notice in the mail, yes he did have to have a paternity test, but he has to pay child support.

I hope you keep your baby. Sounds like you do not want to give it up. Get your education, and you will be able to support you and your child without him.

As far as him not being able to support the child, he should have thought about that before he did the deed.

Good luck Hun!

Answer 5

Even though he is the father, he has no say if you give your baby away. You cannot give away your child. Get child support. He isn't able to maintain a baby but yet he can make it? He needs to man up and be there for the baby even if he doesn't want anything to do with you. Get him on child support then.

Answer 6

yes, he will have to pay child support...but, it's not much.....can you afford to raise a baby by yourself? Will your parents help if the loser decides to have nothing to do with you or your child? Do you think you're mature enough to be a good mother at 17? Do you have a job? A babysitter? Do you have a clue?

sometimes, giving a child up for adoption is the kindest thing you can do.....there are many married couples who are well established financially, that can't have children of their own.....that would LOVE to have a child, even someone else's child.

I'm not saying any of this to be mean, or judgmental.....I had my son at 16 myself, but...I had family support....and got a full time job during my senior year of high school....it wasn't easy.....but I was mature enough to handle it.....

not all girls your age are ready for a baby.....

please think about all of your options......and make your decision on what's best for your baby.....

Good-luck hun..... : )

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say but thats terrible he just wants to give your baby away, what do u want to do? I think he took that respondsiablity on when he got you pregnant, thats my opinion not trying to force anything on you. And yes by law he would be pbligated to pay child support and your parents can press charges because he had sex with you while you are underage.

Answer 8

It's 2006, and I love to hear it's still the girls fault. That drives me crazy! Uh, she wasn't alone, and things happen! Sure you should have used birthcontrol, and all the people who answer your question were all Planned Pregnancies, right? BS..... The guy doesn't grow and carry another human being around for 9 mos. then go through childbirth! And yet, he has all these so called rights. Well, I see it as he put it in and was having a good time, and helped make a baby. He's not worried about your health, he's just worried about his wallet and his freedom of no responsiblities...You put his name on that birth cirtificate, and make him own up to his responsibilities, your life is about to change completely, while he can go around poking other girls? Maybe put them in the same situation? I can't stand those chicks who get knocked up for the money, but if you play, he's gotta pay!!!!!!

Answer 9

I think that you need to consider what he is saying. I think it's a good thing that he is being honest with you about his feelings. You may also want to consider adoption, you are so young yet.

If he is the father and you keep the baby, he will have to pay you support. Child support is not a sure thing. If he quits a job, there's no money for you or the baby.

Answer 10

You have plenty of options if it's not too late. You can have an abortion in your first trimester, you can give your baby up for adoption, or be a single mom. If you aren't too far along like under 9 weeks then abortion is the best. I would have him pay for it though. Or if you don't believe in abortion or your too far along then adoption would be second best. If you can't give a good home and lots of patience and love at this time in your life then you shouldn't keep the baby. Next time this happens and you have unprotected sex and your not on BC then buy the day after pill...good for up to 72 hours after having sex. Man that sucks. If you become a teenage single mom you are a statistic. You sure are in a tight spot. Good luck.

Answer 11

yes, as soon as your baby is born file for childsupport. You will be required to take a dna test that the state will pay for. When the results come back he will be required to pay weekly if the baby is his and the money can be taken out of his check, no matter where he works as long as it isn't for cash the government will be able to track him down. He will go to jail and lose his liscens if he doesn't pay!
Keep your head high, 4get about him and call a pregnancy resource center for help while you are pregnant. They will help you with maternity clothes and stuff for the baby when you bring it home. You can probably get the number to one through your local health department.