I dated a guy for 3 years in high school and 1st year of college. We are both with different people now and we've been chatting online for the last 6 months like nothing ever happened. I just told him I had a dream about us and his girlfriend (the one he had before me) and he said "if ya think i'm sexy come on let me know"-which are lyrics from a Rod Stewart song. I didn't take his remark seriously.. but the remark did spark something in my mind.
So anyway, what do you think? We've been broken up for 2 years now.
*We lost our virginities to each other. Does that matter in my case?
2006-08-29 15:27:37 · 15 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
We never discuss the break-up.. which always started a fight for the first year and a half after the break up.
2006-08-29 15:30:49 · update #1
I don't think so. It would always be a sore point with your current boyfriend.
2006-08-29 15:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very possible to retain a friendship with your ex. I am in the same situation. But as for the psychological factors, unfourtunatley there are some. Me and my ex were very close friends before we started dating but soon after we decided to stop dating because we felt that our relationship wasn't the same like it used to be. I used to about how cute a girl was and she would just roll her eyes and laugh, however when we started dating she would get mad if I whistled at the TV, and I kinda was the same. After we stopped dating we remained best friends and still are but somtimes if she says something sexual or otherwise provocative I might give what she said a little more thought. and when we are alone it feels akward whereas before, we started dating we could be lounging all over each other and not feel the slightest bit odd. We discussed this and she admitted to having similar feelings. We don't have any plans on getting back together. But we knew what could happen if we went from being friends to being "friends" and we still did it. I don't think things can ever go back to normal especially since we both lost our virginities to each other too. Sadly, you can't turn back time. Things will never be the same but our friendship remains solid
2006-08-29 16:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it sister!!! Ex's are ex's for a reason. Why would someone want to start up something that ended? You can try but I know one of you will like the other one more.
I don't know about other people, but thinking about being with someone else while with another is cheating. If you're gonna do it, at least have the decency to break up with the current b/f. But if things don't work out, don't expect to be taken back by your current b/f
2006-08-29 15:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by JediGuitarist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an exciting state of affairs for me, in view that i've got had targets of my ex-gf in view that we broke up 3 years in the past. area of it would ought to do with similarities between your present day relationship and your previous with him, or in all probability even issues that are lacking alongside with your present day beau that have been latest earlier with the ex. i spotted which you published this quesiton interior the Psychology area besides, and fairly, it is purely a dream. Your dreaming state fires pulses that get interpreted as those nonsensical pictures that are drawn from present day thoughts or suggestions. It additionally would not look on your ex's reaction that there is something remotely extreme for the two of you to pursue. once you're happy which you're broken up and you're with somebody else, then in simple terms take it as a hardship-free element. in case you elect for to re-gentle this former relationship, recognize that your ex may be happy with somebody else, and which you would be affecting somebody else previous in simple terms the two one among you.
2016-10-01 01:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by mclaurin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been friends with my son mother for 29 years, Went to her wedding go to there hose ever holiday we talk on the phone She is my best friend. Just because we couldn't live together doesn't mean we don't like each other. Our son was 5 when we broke up but we never fought and I was there every day to take him to school and pick him up, And he would stay with me in the summer I couldn't have asked for a better or a better friend
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2006-08-29 18:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally possible.My ex and I were together for 7 years and now he is my best friend.My new man and him are really good friends now too.I think it all depends on how things ended between you two,and how much you really want him to still be somewhat a part of your life.
2006-08-29 15:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by redhead_2cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you can proubly be good friends,as long as you are moving on with your lifes without the jelious feelings ect. My ex and i are very good friends now and we proubly get along better now than whan we were together. I am remarried and he has been with a very nice person for a long time. we all get along and i enclude her on all our get togethers,we talk on the phone ecy. but that is because all i want is to keep my ex who was my best friend,a friend.
2006-08-29 15:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Every so often my ex and I cross paths, and at first it seems like fun but then you remember why you broke up in the first place. Just leave the past in the past.
2006-08-29 15:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's possible...but it's not something I've experienced. My ex and I can be civil, but that's about it. (I think it has something to do with the facts that he slept with a guy and I married his best friend.)
2006-08-29 15:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by spunk113 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be friends with your ex as long as you are committed to another. And he should do the same.
I would not like it a bit if my husband were to be friends with either of his ex wives.
2006-08-29 15:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by helpme1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋