Isn't it fun to have kids and not have a life?

Question

I'm just now beginning to realize the lyrics in that Kanye West song, "Gold digger", you know how it goes... "...got ya for 18 years..." and how true they really are. I guess it wouldn't be so bad if it was 2 kids and a wife... it's more than that though. It's more like 2 kids and a controlling, b|+chy, moody, hateful wife that is superglued to her damn family here in crappy azz Utah. Ain't married life grand?

I don't have to be a psychic to predict 3/4 of the answers on here, though I didn't expect so many males to answer the same as the women did, they're probably just tryin to kiss azz or gay... one of the two anyways. I don't call it being a jerk as one answer put it... more like "brutally honest" I'm sure most of you females that answered this question have known my type before, wasn't a memorable occasion right? Also, I dont' consider it venting... more like getting the predictable public's opinion... and no, I'm not sexist, I'm brutally honest... you forgot already huh?

Answer 1

I completely understand what you are saying! The difference is I had no intention of marrying the woman I`m with, but the situation is the same.

Answer 2

I have 2 kids and I am married for 6 years now. I am very happy with my life! I may not be able to go out and party but when you have kids thats something you sacrifice to be a parent. We just concentrate on going to places where the kids can have fun as well as us like the movies, zoo, beach, disney land, and just kid oriented places like that. I am happy when I see my family happy. All married couples have problems because not anyone in this world is perfect. You just have to be able to handle and live with all the things that your mate does that you don't like. I'm sure there are things that your partner don't like about you. If you want to be with someone forever you just basically have to have trust, GOOD communication, patience, forgiveness, and attraction.

Answer 3

Well you certainly sound like a man who is extremely happy with his family life. Kids are a blessing and although can and are an expense when they have grown and become mature adults it makes you proud. Watching them grow and taking on some of the habits of their parents (as children do indeed learn what they live) is grand. Sorry to hear that you speak so poorly about your current wife. I have a couple of ex's and don't even speak that rudely about them.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Marriage is work and compromise. Anyone who told you otherwise was lying to themselves and you.

What can you do to change the situation for the better? It sounds like you are resigned to staying with your wife...so make the best of it. Perhaps if you change yourself and try a positive attitude maybe she will be less, ummmm, "moody". It probably would seem unfair that if she is constantly nagging that YOU would have to be the one to change, right? But sometimes you have to be the bigger person and try to find ways to alleviate tension in a situation.

I was married to a hot-head but,...I learned it is possible for people and situations to change for the better. I had to be mature and work on myself as much as he did. It took a while but now things can't be better.

Why did you marry her in the first place? Think of those little things that used to do it for you. Think of the fun things you used to do as a couple...try to grab some couple bonding time and do something fun. You're in Utah...go hiking, biking, trail riding, road trip to Las Vegas, go to Park City and shop, have a sexy weekend at a hotel together, rent a boat, cook a favorite meal as a family...find a new hobby as a family and as a couple. If you're stuck in it you might as well to set your mind to having the best possible time that you can.

Counselling sometimes helps but most people won't do it because they don't believe in it or won't emotionally risk themselves that way.

If all else fails, focus on your kids. Make them the center of your life and have fun with them. My friend is married to a loony and sometimes hateful woman who he will never leave. He devotes his almost all of his extra time to his three kids, and he is a fairly happy man. The attention he lavished on his kids had a calming effect on his wife and now she's actually less loony.

Remember over all this is you one life...rip into it!
Good luck to you, your wife, your kids, and your extended family.

Answer 6

Just because you have a crappy and bitchy wife that has nothing to do with your children.
And yes it is fun to have children and no life such as you call it.
I would not change it if I could.
My children are my life, my love, my reason for living.

And just because you have kids does not mean that you do not have a life. It just means that they should be your life and that everything you do should be for them.
They did not choose to come into this world, you and your crappy ***** wife did. God gave you those kids to take care of, to love, they were a gift from God.
If you don't like your wife then I suggest you get rid of her. But your children should be your focus in life.

Answer 7

You have a series of questions going on here. First of all, having kids means having a life. You get to enjoy life as a child again by doing things with your child(ren) and the joy of seeing the excitement on their faces.

Secondly, there is no such thing as "got ya for 18 years". Caring for and being supportive of your child is a never ending job for the mother who is left holding it down. To care for a child and all of his/her needs is very expensive in trying to do it alone. 18 years is not enough. The mother is responsible for that child for the rest of their life.

Thirdly, yes married life is grand! Try to work with your wife instead of against her. You got what you asked for, now deal with it. Stop trying to blame someone else for what is going on wrong in your life. You hold the key to your own happiness! Find something positive and exert your energy on that. Mainly, your children. You are trashing your wife! The mother of your children! This woman is the fragrance of your children and you say this nasty thing about her to the public. How disrespectful is that??? Was she a b[+ch when you got her pregnant not once, but twice?

Lastly, if you don't like Utah, then move your family the heck outta there! There is no law that says you have to live in Utah!

You men like to be categorized as the King of your Castle. Well then My Lordship, take control of your castle and build it up, not tear it down! Get some control over your kingdom, don't let it control you.

Answer 8

My kids are my life....You don't really live until you have kids to love and care for. It's beautiful being able to positively influence and help mold someone's life.

Answer 9

I love my married life. We don't have kids yet, but are happily married, with a nice little life.

I'm sorry your life is not where you want it, but maybe you should figure out what is making you feel that way about the life you have chosen.

Answer 10

You are either not a parent or a poor one. I cant even begin to explain the joys of parenthood. I have five children and have NEVER for one second felt I didn't have a life

Answer 11

well, im married with 2 kids but i dont hate my wife. i also keep up with current rap without a problem and had kanye's album when it was fresh. if your wife's family is stopping you from learing kanye west songs, then you gots problems!



now i could understand if you were complaning about not being able to snort a quarter ounce of coke with strippers and then fu*k until 6:00 am. if you were doing that before you got married, then you can complain about your kids cramping your style. if not, you can do that s hit after you get divorced!!