I am a 26yo SWF who is a mother of one small child. I live in an apartment that is owned by a minor who inherited the complex from his grandparents. He leases the building through a realtor until he takes over at 18. He is a Japanese boy who is about six inches taller than I and has about 50 pounds on me. I am small and petite for my age. He asked me to go to a movie with him. I went with him to the movie.
After the movie we drove back to the apartment complex where we live. I picked up my daughter from a neighbor who was watching her. He came over and we talked about why he no longer lived with his parents. He said they wanted to retire to Florida. He asked me where the father of my daughter was. I told him he was in Iraq but he had no contact . I told him even though I was a nurse I was still struggling because he left me with a lot of debt plus I had student loans to repay. He asked me if I would like to live for free. I knew what he wanted but never gave him an answer.
2006-08-29 15:12:04 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
He told me that I could live for free to help me to get caught up on bills which would allow me some extra money for myself and my daughter. My rent is high for my area because I live at the beach and this would free up almost $800 per month for other bills and living expenses. He said that he would have the realtor Section 8 the apartment for me which would put it in a low income housing bracket. He said that if I could help him with certain "needs" he had then he would do this for me. He told me he would keep it a secret from other tenants. I am scared he will want more from me and blackmail me which could cause me to lose my job and my daughter. I can't say that the additional money could come in handy until I got a pay raise then I could move out. I need the money and work 12 hour shifts to make extra which limits my time with my daughter. This is an easy way out but with greater consequences than I feel it is worth.
2006-08-29 15:24:51 · update #1
stop going out with him.
stop flirting with him.
do not discuss your personal life with him.
you are leading him on.
although you may be lonely and just thought he'd be cool to hang out with, you are giving this young man hopes of something that should not happen. if you continue to play this game you may end up falling for him and you could land yourself in a heap of trouble. he is your landlord, not your friend. i know it sounds cold, but the two of you can not mix business with pleasure for obvious reasons.
2006-08-29 15:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If the minor needs to and asks and there isn't any sex, then no. notwithstanding the adaptation in sex guidelines now compared to pre 1980`s is that a minor can not legally consent to a sex act with an grownup. so as that being the case, if sex occured then certain the grownup ought to get into legal problem.
2016-11-23 13:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound like a prude but you may want to check with the realtor first about what you stand to lose. I mean he could probably take you to court for breach of contract and make you pay the remainder of your lease, lose retainer fees, and security deposits, as well as any legal fees that he incurs if you move out before end of contract. After all it's his word versus yours when it comes to the "sex for stay free" clause.
What you could do is "bait" him. What I mean by that is to have a private investigator rig your apartment with hidden cameras and recording equipment and let him come onto you in your apartment. If he is the one making all of the moves on you then that is considered sexual battery. I know it sounds disgusting but it would give you leverage and evidence to file a complaint with local authorities.
2006-08-31 14:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by Erick v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a creep, hitting on you because he feels he has power over you.
PLUS, he is a minor so you could end up in jail.
Turn the tables on him. Get a tape recorder that is voice activated and use it to get him on tape trying to "negotiate" you. Tell him you need to time to think about it and escort him out. Get several copies of that tape made and put some in safe places. Tell him what you have and if you take them to police he will be in big trouble. Don't ask for a discount, that would be bribery but if he offers you one it should not be illegal to accept it.
Best warn some other neighbors to be on guard if they are candidates for his affections.
2006-08-31 14:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a dilemma there hon! First, you have a daughter involved and according to your story you are the only parent in her life. There is your number one reason for saying no. Your daughter would end up in the custody of foster care while you went to jail.
In my state which is NC, 16 is legal age of consent so if your are in NC and he is a legally emancipated 16yo then that makes him an adult. I am not saying that it is ethical to have sex with a 16yo but here it would be legal. In SC, 16yo is legal age of consent.
It is your body and your conscience that you have to live with. I guess that you are not the only one he is wanting to but the business to. I wouldn't begin to know your situation to pay off loans and bills there is always a consumer advocacy group that can help consolidate your debts into one payment. But if you are that strapped for cash and don't mind losing your daughter then go for it.
2006-08-30 10:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by victoria w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey, you can be put on section 8 all by your self, all u have to do is go to town hall and apply, then get food stamps, you dont need no man to take care of u. and especially a minor, he's a kid you know what he wants from u, he sleeps with u then leave u the next morning, think about your daughter, do u really want some strange man around her?
2006-08-29 16:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by bleh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nice arrangement. He gets what he wants and you ultimately end up in jail. Well, you won't have to worry about the rent in prison. He's trying to take advantage of you. And, oh yeah, he'll definitley keep that a secret - in your dreams!!!! He'll be bragging everywhere about his "arrangement" with you.
Picture the worst scenario and how you'd be wishing you could go back in time and change everything back. Here's your chance to not do the wrong thing!!!!
2006-08-29 15:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to enjoy this drama. You know it's wrong and illegal to bed this boy but sharing this info with strangers gets you some attention, makes you feel wanted, attractive. You have a daughter and you should be thinking about the example you are setting for her instead of being a sperm bank for this horny adolescent.
2006-08-29 18:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by beelziesluv@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it platonic until he is of legal age. Then decide, if he's still interested. Don't forget that young men of this age are very fickle and changeable. With a child to care for, and a job to do, and bills to pay.... you really don't need the roller coaster romance life of a teenager, do you?
2006-08-29 15:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, I can see why it's tempting, but the answer pretty much has to be no, from a legal point of view.
The only thing you can do is move somewhere where he isn't a minor - where I live, 16 is perfectly legal for both sexes. (Please tell me he isn't under 16!!).
Unless you do that, you have to wait, and keep the relationship platonic in the meantime.
2006-08-29 15:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋