I believe my boyfriend is cheating on me or has cheated on me. I'm delivering his child in two days. I'm scared. He is the first man I have ever had feelings like this towards. I was dedicated to my education and lonely before him. I have no friends, and my family will make me more miserable. Therefore, I'm alone. I'm broke, unemployed due to katrina, no transportation, so forth. He, also, treats me bad. I can't confront him or talk about my feelings, b/c he will simply tell me to get to stepping if that's the way i feel. I feel so hopeless. I have been turning towards God, but i'm still miserable and my boyfriend is still hurting me. It feels like I can't leave him.
2006-08-29 14:57:59 · 30 answers · asked by blacksilk79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why are some people on here acting stupid? go to a party or something. anyway, please read the passage before answering b/c a lot of answers aren't related to the passage. b/c someone said go to familly or something and my passage explains why i can't. and this is a message board for help. if you're not willing to give advice, why are you on here?
2006-08-29 15:11:30 · update #1
You just think that your parents will make you even more miserable. I find that hard to believe. Can anyone make you more miserable then you are now? Being with a man who cheats on you, mistreats you, abuses you at least mentally and emotionally? He has you broke, no transportation and with a baby due any day.
My suggestion is to call your parents, explain to them what is going on, and ask them to come and get you before you have that baby. Your parents can help you get back on your feet and help you with that baby. To a parent there is nothing like being a grand parent. They will love that baby unconditionally just like they do you.
Parents some times seem to be your worst enemy but they really arent. They just want what is best for you. And now for your baby.
Let them help you right now in your time of need. That is what parents are for, that is what we do.
At least you will be taken care of and so will that baby.
Please at least call your mom and talk to her and tell her what is going on. And let her be there for you and her grandchild.
Congratulations on the baby and may God be with you during delivery and during your troubled times.
2006-08-29 15:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to get help with you being p.g and about to deliver.
Get out, a relationship is nothing without trust. If he is treating you badly, that is another reason why you should not stay, what makes you think he will not treat this child badly. Also, if you two do not get along, the child will pick up on it, and be an unhappy child. For you and your child's sake, get out.
You may feel alone at first, but after a while you will realize that you made the right step, and in the long run feel better about yourself.
Good luck!! And Congratulations on the baby.
2006-08-29 15:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpeachiebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when all else fails, maybe family will have to be the best way to get out of this situation for now. He doesn't seem too concerned about the wealth fair of you or the baby. Seems a little self absorbed with no intentions of helping you. I know you probably feel there is nowhere to turn, but there is. Talk to your family and if they cant help you than maybe a friend can. Look up some agencies for unwed mothers --they may be able to help you. By the way, treating you the way he does is abuse. You need to leave as soon as possible. Lots of luck to you.
2006-08-29 15:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in one hell of a situation. Luckily, you will be able to hit him up for some child support. If you are broke, unemployed and alone, you might consider staying with him until you can get back on your feet and make a life for you and the baby. Just don't tell him that once you're able, you're going to leave. Also during pregnancy your hormones change, so things appear to be different than they really are. You might have thought he cheated, but might not have. Ask him point blank, then make you decision.
2006-08-29 15:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i feel for you honey, but if you are in a bad relationship and he does treat you very good, then i would suggest trying out a womens rescue center or something like that,i dont know much about them but they will help you out!! That is the best thing i can tell you. And as far as your dude, can you trust him??? it doesnt sound like you can, and that is a big issue in a relationship, so you gotta go with your heart! Do what feels right! I will pray for you and never lose your faith in God, with him all things are possible!!! Keep your head up!!! And i hope all goes good!!! xoxoxoxoxxoxooxooxoxoxxoo hang in there, because if there were no storms there would b no rainbows after!!!
2006-08-29 15:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ LEILANI ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm pretty young but who cares. iF i were you i would actually ask him "how do you feel about me" or something like that..if he doesn't want to talk about it..then he most likely doesn't care about the relationship (tell him that this is really importnat). Your a really cool person from what i hear and your questions too. But remember that Jesus had to feel pain becuase of love...If you really truly do love GOd you must make sacrifices...follow your heart (that's so cliche) Abraham prayed for a son but God gave him one ilke 20 years after he asked it for him. He also asks to kill his son as a sacrifice. God is loving but also testing us so you must be patient.
P.S. my family used to be corrupt. We were really poor having like 1 meal 2 days or something like that. Anywyas.. we prayed the rosary everyday and right now...we drive a porsche.. wierd huh... this might not happen to you..but possessions sometimes corrupt us..i kinda felt like i was drifting away from God actually when i became rich. We still pray and i think that he turly will help you. DOn't abandon him and fully konw that you might have to suffer more pain...honesly..i used to be a stupid kid..but i've changed and i really hope that you will too. You will find an answer.. someday.. either in this lifetime or the next. God Bless
2006-08-29 15:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by alex_ahn91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust your boyfriend, you shouldn't stay with him.
It's absolutely horrible what happened with Hurricane Katrina and all fo those innocent people who lost their homes, loved ones, or their own lives.
Even though you feel that your family will make you more miserable, talk to them about your boyfriend. Tell them you want to leave him. They can probably help you in this situation. They are your parents, after all.
Good luck with your baby, and good luck with everything else, too.
2006-08-29 15:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not involved or committed to your relationship, then it will only get worse if you stay with him, because you have no leverage. You need to find some sort of support, but also do the best you can to manage the resources you do have well.
You need to seek both the support of the government through welfare and other social programs, and family. And do your best to get an income of your own through some sort of job. It's important to let people know your specifics and ask for help, don't assume your family knows what you need.
That's my opinion
2006-08-29 15:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by moment_in_passing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it may seem as though you will be alone without him...but lets face facts...he treats you like crap, may or may not have cheated, doesn't support you emotionally. You are already alone. He is dead weight leeching onto you.
He tells you to "get to stepping" because he thinks so much of himself that he believes you will never leave him no matter how bad he treats you. You are unemployed due to Katina? I know they offer folks in your situation unemployment and public assistance. Get your ducks in a row, have your baby, and leave the loser.
2006-08-29 15:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the wrong time to want to break up with a person when you are having their child but I always say it is never to late.
I don't know why people have children with someone they really don't know. You need to get to know a person.
If you are sure that he is cheating then you need to cut him loose cause no baby is going to cure his cheating ways.
In the long run you will probably find someone better who will care you as well as your child.
You need to make a clean break and get out as fast as you can.
2006-08-29 15:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋