Well, just lately my husband asked me if at all possible, would I have sex with another woman in front of him... Of course I felt shocked that he would even ask me to have sex with ANYone else besides him. Sure most of all women have had lesbian "feelings" or "encounters" at least once in a life time, if not yet.
I was woman enough to tell him that in the past I have had these thoughts of other women, but that would be as far as we get...
I believe my feeling uncomfortable to talk about the subject is turning him off, but I never say that I'm not interested in talking about it. He normally ends the conversation not me.... How can I possible keep myself calm while talking about it? It feels as if I'm talking to a complete stranger about something very dark... Who wouldn't?
2006-08-29 14:56:22 · 13 answers · asked by ~.:.*-|Yogster|-*.:.~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband has been asking me to have sex with a woman while he watches too. i'm not really into that either, but am considering doing it once to please him. if you decide that you wanna give it a go you can email me and we can hook up while our husbands watch. sounds weird, but i dont think its that big of a deal. plus u dont have to be a lesbian to hook up with a woman. and it would only be a one time thing. let me know.
2006-08-29 15:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by sexymama421 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a common situation belive me. I personally don't see why you would get angry or feel embarsed by this. You even admit you have had thoughts before "as most women do" of being with another women. So be calm maybe even a lil open minded as to HOW FAR YOU'LL TAKE THIS. I have had 3sums years ago i've been to swing clubs but, i'm in a commited relationship now we no longer swing. We do still go to swing clubs to hang out drink watch other people we just don't take it all the way we are only sexual with each other. Don't feel uncomfortable to talk to him EVEN IF the answer is flatly NO you should feel free to expressed to you husband anything sexual. Tell him how you honestly feel. For me when we did have 3sums "some were 2 guys +me, some 2 girls and my hubby" it never caused jealouse feelings or anything bcause we were open with eachother about it. I have seen relationships last many years happily while swinging i've seen marriages drop in months it comes down to TALKING ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL. IF you are very against this let him know you will watch girl on girl porn with him or do other things but, NO YOU WILL NOT ALLOW another anyone in your bed. If you are just shy and the ideal excites you to tell him you like the ideal you are scared go SLOW stop if it's not doing it for you. In the end this is getting long!don't do anything you don't want to! Don't ever feel embarssed to tell your hubby sexual fantasy or to talk about sexual matters.
2006-08-29 15:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a fantasy about you and another woman. Did he ever mention this before? Did he hear about it from his buddies? Has he watched porn with this in it?
Most men have fantasies of one kind or another and you happen to be the star in your husbands. It's just that he wants OR THINKS HE WANTS to see you with a co-star. Hey, he's attracted to women so what could be better than seeing your wife with another woman, right?
There's nothing wrong with your husband, but I feel that like most fantasies, it should be left as that, because opening the door to it could affect your marriage more than either of you realize, either with him coming to resent the additional partner or you, or you finding out that you might want to spend more time with this new scenario once tasted, than you'd like to admit or could imagine.
Talk about sex together, dress up for him, act out whatever you two want to act out during sex. Put on two or three different outfits during sex if he likes and pretend to be different women during one lovemaking session.
I was going to suggest watching a lesbian porn flick while you two make love to see if that would satisfy his curiosity and enhance the fantasy as fantasy, but on second thought I feel that might make him want the real thing even more.
Check the bedroom hiding places for such a flick because I don't think if this is a new idea of your husband's that he came up with it out of thin air.
Above all remember that having (and that especially goes for sexual fantasies) is usually not as good as wanting.
2006-08-29 15:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Free Advice 4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women have thought about another woman and not all men want to see their spouse with another woman I have never had any thoughts about women and my husband has never asked me to do such a nasty thing like that I don't believe in that that is just wrong I don't have to worry about that kind of stuff coming from my husband but if my husband was like that I would tell him if he wanted that in a woman to go be with a lesbian I would never stoop that low for a man to me that stuff is sick in the head my husband and I don't believe in that kind of stuff anyways anyone who would ask a person to do that would have to be sick in the head if I were you I would just tell him to go to a lesbian sounds like he isn't too interested in you anymore that's stupid for him to get turned on he wants to see you do that nasty stuff that just is wrong
2006-08-29 16:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with another women doesn't make you a lesbian. Most men have programmed by society and porn to be turned on by two women having sex. If your not into it then tell him so. If your even slightly interested then discuss it with him see what happens. You may enjoy yourself and it may bring you and your husband closer together.
SARA
2006-08-30 06:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sara_V. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him your fantasy is to see him have sex with another man first and then you can invite a female to be with you.
He just wants a reason to be with another woman and with you there that would mean its ok. Get him a x-rated movie. Most men have the same fantasies.
2006-08-29 15:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by c k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine did. did not precisely ask, both. extra like "hey. it really is time. NOW". I loved it. This became 30 years in the past, and she needed it a lot and so frequently I inspired her to come across a lover. She did, and everyone got here out ahead.
2016-12-05 22:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by schihl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont like women at this point in your life than dont do anything lesbian for your husband or whoever, unless thats what you want.
2006-08-29 15:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by skdfjasl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a simler but differnt thing going. My husband is the one and only guy that doesnt want me to, on the other hand I do. So we have the oposite problem you do. Just have to comprimise and don't do anything that your unconfotable with.
2006-08-29 16:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch, that is a deep subject... something that he shouldn't push you into unless, you want too.. all men would love to have two woman.. maybe, to lighten up the situation.. rent a porno that has lesbian action in it and sort of put yourself in the video as a means to release his thoughts.. maybe, that would help.
2006-08-29 15:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by shelly v 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋