i love my husband and he thinks he must do a big job (cut down tree we live in ms katrina area still cleaning up ) but he has not had a real job in 12 years but he does take care of kids which is a big job to ms but not him he cant work but gets money from uncle sam he wont help around house and tells me the house is a mess and yes it is buti work from 5:30 am to 7:00 pm 3 days a week and 10 the other days . he want to do big things and wont help me he said it gets in side his head and he does not feel like a man i do love him but i can;t help him today he took 1/2 bot. of pills ? help
2006-08-29 14:55:50 · 8 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
For God's sake try and encourage him and help him find a job he can do! He sounds like he's very lazy or he has some serious issues. But the way you describe it, it sounds like he's just very depressed. He may need professional help. But for now, I think the best thing you can do is hold him close and tell him you are concerned about him and you hate to see him feel so bad. Tell him you are scared to see him hurt himself that way. That should help somewhat. The idea isn't to treat him like another of your children, but everyone needs some support and encouragement sometimes. If he's smart, he'll do the same for you if you ever have issues like his.
My guess about the cause of the problem is he doesn't feel needed, and he certainly doesn't seem satisfied with his life. A job would help him get his mind off his problem and it would probably make him feel better, but he might have trouble finding a good job if he's as unskilled as you make him sound. Your moral support would help him too. You can change some of that with a little effort on your part, even with your busy schedule. I wouldn't rule out a nutrient deficiency or a bad diet as a factor in making him feel bad either, but he still needs to see a professional at some point if things are as bad as you say. Now then, if he doesn't change after all that, I'd say he just might be lazy. But even lazy people usually have concern for their health, something which your husband seems to lack. Good luck!
2006-08-29 15:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The day my husband won't get a job or help around the house is the day I pack his sh#t and throw his a@% to the curb! I am not his mother, I am not a maid, and this is not Motel 6. BOTH individuals need to pull their weight, whether it's having a job outside, or inside, the home. As for the 1/2 bottle of pills, he needs help mentally, or he's looking for attention....be an adult, he is not your child!
2006-08-29 15:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by But Inside I'm Screaming 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about this if you cant provide for your family what role do you play? i mean honestly your just a donor if your getting taken care of. plus a lot of men talk through action and not words so if you are not putting food on the table then in some way you dont care enough and you are not sacrificing enough for the people you love.
2006-08-29 14:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
GET OUT NOW. He will not get better, your love has faded and the children need a better example of a man to live up to.
2006-08-29 14:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by sissy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him if he doesn't feel like a man then get his azz up and get a job, then maybe he will....or get life insurance on him and feed him the other half of that bottle
2006-08-29 14:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
macho pride, what else. good luck to your marriage. cheers!
2006-08-29 19:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ego and pride. plain and simple.
2006-08-29 14:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by red eyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it
2006-08-29 14:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by padent@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋